Do guys find it a turn off if a girl suffers from mental health problem?

Question

should I let him know I’m going through it that’s why I’ve been isolating myself

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. Is she really mentally ill or just making that claim so that she has an excuse for some other shortcomings in her accomplishments?

2. If she is mentally ill, there are a few different concerns. First, some types of mental illness have a strong genetic component, such as schizophrenia. If I am dating to find a future wife and mother to my children, I do not want someone who will have schizophrenic children.

3. If she is mentally ill, depending on the diagnosis, she may periodically require hospitalizations and long term inpatient care. That means she won't always be by my side.

4. If she is mentally ill, it will affect her ability to do many things in life. She may be unemployable. She may have difficulty participating in social activities. If she has children, her ability to be a good parent may be impaired.

5. Finally, her mental illness will most likely permeate her relationship with me. Will she be overly self-centered because she views herself as a victim? Will she be suspicious of my every movement?

Yes, mental illness in a partner should serve as a HUGE red flag for anyone who is seriously contemplating a long term relationship. However, if a guy is simply looking for a girl for a good time, and perhaps for uninhibited sex, SOME mentally ill women are uninhibited and quite promiscuous.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

For sure you should let him know

I mean maybe you can both figure it out

I have a theory about mental illness and it's very simple theory

But I think anything can be worked through and sometimes it takes that special person or even just a friend to communicate with you to open up new ideas new avenues things to look at when asking why is it happening to me

I say talk to him about it if he can't hang with you because of it then that's his problem and it's a good thing because that way you're not going to waste your time either

But I will say I believe honestly that you can beat this whatever it might be I believe you can beat this and become the person who you truly want to become

MissBoogus · Accepted Answer

They could, but they could be just as turned off with a lack of communication too. let them know if you’re struggling, and if it’s the right person it won’t matter.

Lisia · Accepted Answer

Bruh if he doesn't like you anymore just because you have mental health problems, you need to DROP him. He ain't worth it.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sort of. girlfriend 2 had one but, after she spent 6 months in the Ha Ha Hotel, I was still intent on staying with her when she got out but, she went back to er ex and I didn't see her again until at least a decade later.
At that point, she would only fall in love with me when she was having another breakdown. As soon as she got better, we were just best friends, again. While she was in, I was her husband, according to her!
After hearing stories about the shit she'd do before going back in, I no longer wanted her, romantically. One time, she had a bad case of diarrhea and shit her pants and then went to the kitchen, took off her shit-filled panties and swung them around in the kitchen throwing little globs of shit all over everything in the room!! You name it, there was shit on it!!
The last time I was with her before her 6-month stint, she got baby powder and sprayed it all over the living room, got a box of loose tea and syrup and built a mountain of tea on the kitchen table, which hardened and was next to impossible to get off, took a huge full box of blue tip matches and dumped them into a frying pan full of bacon grease and then took every dish in the kitchen and put them into a sink full of dirty water!! I spent all the next day cleaning the dishes and the kitchen! After all that, I was beat so, I decided to wait `til the next day to clean the powder in the living room. Shortly after I'd finished cleaning the kitchen, she went in and saw what I did and got really pissed at me for ruining her art work!! And then proceeded to start making that mess all over again!! I couldn't take it, anymore, and left!! I called up her father to come get her.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Absolutely. I've been with a woman with borderline personality disorder and bipolar disorder. Another who was schizophrenic. Another who had epilepsy and now is a trans man (I think the epilepsy took its toll on her brain) and was eventually falsely accused and served an ex parte ppo by a girl with a panic disorder. So yeah mental health issues in girls/women are a HUGE turn off for me after all of those experiences and unfortunately majority of the women in my dating age range self diagnose themselves with these disorders and illnesses.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Depends entirely on the situation, but I would generally find that a turn off, yes. If you've just been struggling with mild Anxiety or a bout of Depression, that's really not a problem.

If you have PTSD, Borderline, Bipolar, Schizo, Paranoia, or anything else in that line; I'm sorry, but I just can't have you in my life.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Mental health challenges can be a spectrum. If someone literally can’t remember what they said an hour ago or they can’t mentally add 2 + 2 then yes that’s frankly a turn off. However if someone just feels overwhelmed or is recovering from some trauma then connecting and trusting them seems more possible.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Did you really expect someone to come on here and be like "No, of course not, the more the merrier?" Of course it's a turnoff that's a silly question. The better question is "Is this a deal breaker?" which for some it will be and some it will not be, but nobody is going to honestly say "Oh it doesn't matter at all."

Sonorous · Answer

I feel like this can't simply be answered due to the fact that people's circumstances differ so much. Everyone has different tolerance levels, types of mental problems, obstacles in their life, etc.

But I will say that you have a good chance at garnering true empathy though since you're female.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how bad it is and whether or not she is self reliant.

I got severe ADHD myself but I have been 100% independent my entire adult life. I have a good job, bought my own house, take care of my own problems, etc.

But if the girl is looking for a man she can support her not only emotionally but financially this is a dealbreaker for me. It’s actually why I broke up with my last girlfriend who has this problem.

Anonymous · Answer

No it's huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge huge turn on for me..

Anonymous · Answer

When it comes to mental health no you should talk to your therapist the person who is trained to help you

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yeah, also self isolating when under stress is a turn off.

virtue2332 · Answer

When you say isolate yourself are you hiding from people. I only ask because I've been there. Just lost the patience to deal with people.

bededazzle · Answer

no. i would do everything i could to help her.

DextroShade · Answer

It depends on the problem: if it's something like depression or anxiety it's not a big deal but if it's bipolar, borderline, OCD, schizophrenia, or psychopathy then it's a total deal-breaker.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Obviously. Would you desire a man that's mentally off?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes you should, it's always best.

I had a girl told me she has epilepsy and if I want to stop being friends I can stop. I told her nonsense, I love you however you are and expect you to not leave me when I have a disease years later

Anonymous · Answer

Almost every female has mental health issues. It’s how she deals with them that is important.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm dating someone with mental health problems. Her life got better after she's with me.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Any guy who has previously dated a crazy chick knows not to do that again.

driven159 · Answer

it can be a concern. to the other person and a worry

Pohjolan · Answer

That could mean anything from stress to psychopathy.

AnnieSW · Answer

Men tend to dislike it in my opinion

Angelo75 · Answer

Depends on the type of health problem.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

No, I try to understand her.

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope.

Joshgag2000 · Answer

It depends on the guy

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

Joker_ · Answer

sure do!

Teabaggin · Answer

Not at all

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