Why do most guys not date fo reals? Most like jus wanna hang an stuff. I have been take to eat like 2 times, is this normal?

[Matilde03]

Like most guys I says I date r more jus coming over my house bcos I haves 2 kids tho it jus usually sex. Or I meet them som plase an maybe a party or som things. I been to many parties I guess tho no dates fo reals.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Why do most guys not date fo reals? Most like jus wanna hang an stuff. I have been take to eat like 2 times. . . Like most guys I says I date r more jus coming over my house bcos I haves 2 kids tho it jus usually sex."

I only date women who would be a reasonable candidate for a long term relationship and what you have written shows you would be a horrible candidate for me, even if we were in the same age range. Any it seems that many other guys in your life feel the same way. Maybe they want to have sex with you, but obviously they can get that without the date so they are saving a few bucks because they think you aren't worth it. And they think that because of the way you conduct yourself. If you want to change it, you can. If not, at least use condoms!

[Matilde03]

U dont knows how I conduct miself.

[OlderAndWiser]

You have two kids at home and you let guys come over just to have sex. And your writing shows marginal literacy. I know enough.

[Matilde03]

I dont have babysitters an got 2 have money for that. I am sorry I dont rite good enough for u. I had to leave school after 8th grade

[Avicenna]

Well, it sounds like the guys you’re coming into contact with don’t know how to take a woman out on a date and are just interested in sex. You’re going to need a reliable babysitter and you’re going to need to be a realistic prospect for a relationship in order for guys to want to spend money on you.

What you are experiencing is normal for women who mess around with guys who aren‘t stable, guys that just want sex and don’t know how to take responsibility. You need to meet better guys.

[Matilde03]

Thnx u … kinda the guys I grew up wit.. most I date now r like 25 an like 30 maybe … som already haves baby moma’s but I dnt find out until later.

[Avicenna]

I understand completely, but you aren’t going to get better results if you keep dating the same kinds of guys. These guys you’re dating aren’t worth it. You know they have issues as soon as you meet them, even if you don’t know what those issues are.

When I was around your age, I didn’t live in a good neighborhood and I had to meet better women at college or other ways.. I’m not saying you should go to college for that reason, I’m just saying you need to do something different if you want to meet better guys. Maybe develop a hobby or interest. Find ways to expand your social circle because you can sometimes meet some interesting people. One woman I coach in running is a former dancer who is teaching me multiple types of dance.

[Avicenna]

Lots of guys out there just want sex and don’t want to put forth much effort to get it. Stay away from those guys and ones who can’t have a stable monogamous relationship. You’re much better off being single than dating unreliable guys who just want sex.

[Matilde03]

Yea that is hard but thnx u … I took 4eva to gets my ged. I dont haves time to bcos an 18 month old an a5 yr old to take care of to

[Avicenna]

I understand, but at the very least you can avoid these guys who are bad news.

[Matilde03]

Hard to avoid I now many for years. Frnds to.

[Avicenna]

You need to do what’s best for you.

[Decoded93]

It's sad that you have a lot to offer and are being used by these guys :( I hope you find someone who treats you right soon

[Matilde03]

Thnx butho I means what is a date really. I don't know

[Decoded93]

I think a date is when a guy is interested in you as more than a friend, otherwise it's a hangout, but respects and values you as a woman, otherwise it's a hookup, and you definitely deserve some dating!!

[Matilde03]

I been to parties an stuff. I guess it is me I guess I had guys over an cooked for them so that is a date.

[Decoded93]

Lots of women go to parties and meet guys there, otherwise what's the point? And yeah those could be dates! I'm impressed that you can cook, that's a nice skill to surprise a guy with

[Matilde03]

Yea I learn from neighbors an stuff… a lot of Jamaican cooking

[Decoded93]

That's cool, I love jerk chicken, I had neighbors from the Caribbean growing up and their BBQ was the best

[Matilde03]

Yea.. the summer here the neighborhood bbq a lot

[Decoded93]

So what would you want if you could have anything? Would you just want to try real dating? Or get a boyfriend as soon as possible?

[Matilde03]

I don't know wit dating is 😂… I was pregnant at 15 so

[Decoded93]

Just date a guy who want a family lol

[Matilde03]

I’m mi area many young like me dont wanna deals. An I dated an older man , seperated from his wife…. He was nice we goes to dinner the 2 time I ever eats at a real restaurant. we were talks of maybe find an apartment but he went back to his wife

[Decoded93]

Just keep looking! You'll find the right guy

[jahaims]

Most guys your age don't want anything serious because they are immature

[Matilde03]

Most guys I go wit r late 20’s..30 an stuff

[jahaims]

You are just bad at picking dudes, then.

[Tim2nice]

It’s because you got black kids and they just want a leg over and not spend money or time on you.

[Matilde03]

Mi neborhood is is mostly blck… an most guys here nows I got kids

[Iron_Man]

You are being used for sex they’re real cheap to