Does an abusive relationship ruin you for the future?

[Anonymous]

So i went so long without dating that I didn’t think it would happen but my first relationship turned into an abusive one. It ended in may but I feel completely fucked up from it. Like it was verbal and physical abuse how can I change my mindset to think it wouldn’t happen again or that there are better women out there

[bededazzle]

no. not if you learn from it. seek therapy if you need to work through some things. i have been in an aussie relationship myself and i learneda lot about why i tolerated it. be kind to yourself. if you want love, you will have to be vulnerable again. also, of course, it may take some time. good luck :)

[bededazzle]

lol *abusive not aussie

[slatyb]

No it doesn't. My wife and are happy together after leaving abusive spouses.

[LazerBean]

It can, but doesn't have to.

[Anonymous]

Only if you let it