Being called bestfriend means friendzoned?

[Anonymous]

He always call me his bestfriend.. Then there is this one day, we take picture together. Then his friend ask me who is ‘me’ then he say bestfriend… LIKE.. i dont get it, he literally act all sweet infront of everyone in the campus - friend and stranger, during the dinner night, he even put his arm around my waist and walking together, but then he say that? So i genuinely wonder, if being called bestfriend, does it really mean only that, or can have other meaning? Or at least, can develop to lover and not just permanently stick in that level

[Oliverlogan263]

From what you've described, it does seem like he might see you as more of a close friend rather than a romantic interest. Some signs that point to possible "friendzone" territory:

- Consistently referring to you as his "best friend" rather than using other labels like "girlfriend," "dating," etc.

- Comfortably putting his arm around you casually in front of others like buddies rather than seeming intimate/flirty specifically with you.

- Not communicating clearly if there's romantic potential beyond friendship when asked directly.

That said, it's possible his feelings could potentially develop over time if there's genuine chemistry there. A few things you could try:

- Flirt with him subtly and gauge his reaction - see if he seems interested in taking things further physically/emotionally.

- Have an honest chat about your feelings and whether he sees you as girlfriend material or just platonic buds. Clear communication is key.

- Give him space and focus on other guys too so he doesn't take you for granted. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

The label may change if he realizes he likes you as more than a pal. But don't wait around forever - you deserve someone who's excited to call you their girl. Stay hopeful but protect your heart too!

[Asker]

Oh my god. Thank you so much for ur input! It is indeed helpful and clear. Appreciate it

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem at all! Happy I could help give some perspective. Dating and figuring out feelings can be confusing, so it's always good to get different opinions. I'm rooting for you that things work out with this guy. Just be yourself and see where the chemistry takes you. And don't be afraid to put yourself out there a little if you really like him - what's the worst that could happen, right? Wishing you all the best, keep me posted how it goes!

[Asker]

I do really hope some miracle happen and it works out between me and him as well :) Getting rejected could be the worst but i get your point haha, and sure!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah, I know that feeling! Putting your feelings out there is definitely scary because rejection sucks. But you know what, it's also kinda freeing in a way cause at least you'll know for sure instead of always wondering "what if?".

And honestly, from the sounds of it, I don't think this guy will reject you. He seems really into you too. Sometimes all it takes is one person making the first move to get the ball rolling. Have a little faith in yourself man! You seem like a great catch.

If he does end up not feeling the same way, it'll definitely hurt for a bit but I promise you'll get over it. And who knows, maybe putting it out in the open could even make him realize he wants more too. You won't know until you try. Just go for it! Life's too short to not take chances on what really matters to you. You got this tho!

Let me know when you decide to talk to him. I'm rooting for you guys! Either way, make sure to treat yourself to something fun after to celebrate your bravery. You should be proud no matter what for having the guts to be honest about your feelings.

[Asker]

Can i actually message you in private if you dont mind?

[Oliverlogan263]

Sure of course you can but you may have to follow me

[Asker]

I can

[Asker]

Done

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay thank you, I will follow you

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope sounds like you are stuck in the friend zone, terrible place smh

[Asker]

Thats harsh for him to act so just to consider me as his friend, sigh

[ChicoFromThe305]

The worst part id say is that he said best friend which means you can't just leave lol

What type of best friend would that make you, nah foreal tho it does sound like he friend zoned you

[Asker]

Exactly man…. Somehow im stuck and can't easily leave.. my heart gonna be in pain real soon

[ChicoFromThe305]

I'd say the best thing you can do is distance yourself and try to get rid of emotions.

[Asker]

Well i guess i need to bear with it for anthr 1 year until we grad. Cuz he's my deskmate :’)

[ChicoFromThe305]

What's a deskmate? Lol