Why would a guy hurt you when you try help him talking to others bad about you and afterwards hide?

[Anonymous]

I just don't understand why he would try to hurt me after I try help him talking bad to others about me and then hide and after i block him on instagram make new account just to stalk me and not leave me alone or chase me in real life after i just want him gone

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that really sucks that dude treated you that way. Some guys can just be jerks sometimes.

It sounds like maybe he had some issues he was dealing with internally and took it out on you by talking badly about you to others. That's super weak of him. And hiding and stalking you after is definitely not cool at all.

Maybe deep down he felt hurt or insecure about something himself. But that doesn't excuse his behavior - hurting others isn't the answer. Only thing you can do is try to rise above it and not let someone like that live rent free in your head.

I'd say just keep doing you - surround yourself with people who genuinely care about you and make you feel good. This jabroni ain't worth your time. On the bright side, at least you found out his true colors before getting more invested, even if it sucks right now. Keep your head up, better days ahead!

[Asker]

Thanks a lot for the answear. It's really hard, I cried today 5 times remembering how he treat me. He had a very bad cold and I made him homemade tea for him buying everything for it and preparing it and that day he rejected it which hurt. Now he added by talking to others bad about me and more worst - to our boss he told she too that I made tea for him and other bad things about me and my boss yell at me for it today saying it's not ok making a tea for him. Wednesday i made it - he said no i don't want it. Then next day I wasn't at work he complained about me to boss saying i made a tea and probably was forcing him to drink it and afterwards Friday he didn't come to work which was weird i feel so much hurt i just dont know all day thinking why he made it such a big problem thst i made tea for him?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that really sucks. I can see why you've been so upset about this whole thing. It was a really nice thing you did making him tea when he was sick.

The way he's twisting it around and telling people you were forcing him or something is so unfair. Sounds like he's just trying to cause trouble for you at work now too by complaining to the boss. What a jerk!

I honestly don't know what his problem is. Maybe he's just an insecure guy who doesn't like it when other people are nice to him. Either way, you didn't do anything wrong at all by trying to be helpful.

The best thing is to just let it go and not let him see how upset he's making you feel. Don't cry over some guy who doesn't even appreciate a simple nice gesture. Hold your head high and don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he's getting to you.

Maybe talk to your boss again too and explain your side - that you were just trying to help when he was sick. Hopefully they'll realize he's exaggerating things. Either way, stay strong and don't let this guy bring you down!

[ThrillSeeker01]

He has issues. You should cut him off. He doesn't appreciate kindness 😔

[Asker]

Yes and I cried 5 times today remembering it I couldn't even work - he even complained to my boss about it all I wanted help him with his cold so I made homemade tea for him which he rejected anyway and then he go complain to boss about me making a tea for him

[ThrillSeeker01]

You are too kind