I need some advice?

[Leah_Monet]

I’m seeing a guy we went out on a date. I kissed him on our 4th date and it was very intense! I asked him what he think about him and his words were I kind of like you. I asked him if I was his type he said 50-50. Then I asked if he is thinking of relationship with me in that he said I never thought on this. I need time to think can’t give you the commitment.

My experience is very bad in relationships. I’m not good at telling how guys are what they want.

Do you think this guy is good? Should I wait for him? Like I don’t know what I should do. I feel happy and relaxed when I’m with him. Is he playing? Or he is genuine. I don’t know is he green flag or a red flag?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that's tricky. On one hand, the kissing seems like a good sign he's feeling you. But his answers about not being sure of a relationship are kinda ambiguous

A few things to consider:

- His "I need time to think" is understandable since you've only gone out a few times. No need to rush into labels.

- The "50-50" comment would bug me though - like dude either is feeling me or nah. Why only half?

- He may genuinely be unsure since it's new. But could also just be hesitant to commit yet.

- Do you feel he's really present when you're together? Seems like there's a connection at least.

I'd say give it a bit more time before putting pressure on being official. See how he acts on your next few dates. Pay attention if he's more into you or still vague.

For now don't fully trust him until he proves himself, but don't totally write him off either. Follow your gut - if he seems like bad news, dip out! But another date or two can't hurt. Just protect your heart feel me?

Let me know if things seem sus - we gotta look out for each other! You'll get a read on his deal soon enough.

[spartan55]

You are a red 🚩 flag for wanting to define the relationship after four dates? Ugh...

[bowenw]

It seems like a red flag to me if he's not a little more sure after 4 dates.

[Anonymous]

Yes, and he was just being truthful with you.

[Leah_Monet]

Is he a green flag?

[Opinion Owner]

Its not a flag at all.

[Leah_Monet]

Then? I want to be in relationship with him. Should I wait for him?

[Opinion Owner]

No! Do not wait for him and don't pass up other opportunities that come your way.