Why keep it a secret?

[Guuci]

My boyfriend want to get engaged but wants to keep it a secret. He also told me I need to find a second job to help pay for the ring

[Oliverlogan263]

That's weird that he wants to keep the engagement secret. Like you're both gonna know, why not tell your friends and fam the good news?

I'd be sus about why he's being so secretive. Maybe he's not 100% sure he wants to take that step yet and doesn't wanna get hassled about it. Or he could be hiding something else, who knows.

As for you needing a second job for the ring, that's shady as hell too. Rings and proposals should be something you do together as a couple, not put all that pressure on you alone. Especially if he's got a job too.

I'd be asking him what's really up. Like why all the secrecy and why ain't he pitching in? An engagement is about you both committing, not just you proving yourself.

This whole thing gives me sketchy vibes. You sure you can trust this guy is really down to marry you for real? Might wanna get some answers before getting hitched, just saying. Look out for yourself on this one.

[Baublebar234]

He said you have to get a second job to pay for the ring? I think that’s even more offensive. Why a secret? I’m a private person but there’s a line between privacy and secrecy. Does he claim you already publicly (like he will tell people when asked that he has a girlfriend)? If yes, then I don’t see why he wants to keep a secret. If no, then I wouldn’t continue this relationship.

[Anonymous]

He is saying he wants to get engaged but at the same time you have to pay for the ring yourself? That right there would tell me to end things. Him also wanting to keep the engagement a secret. That's a massive red flag.

This guy sound flakey

[Paris13]

I do Not Like WHY A SECRET and WHY? DO YOU HAVE TO HELP IN PAYING FOR YOUR OWN RING? RED FLAG. xxoo

[Paris13]

Welcome to Gag and Best of Luck. xx

[MrCharlie13]

Red flags, red flags everywhere!!!