Why younger men don’t wanna take dating seriously?

[ohvanillalattegal]

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Update: targeting age group in 20s

[lightbulb27]

I'm older but will answer anyways.

Because they have been emotionally corrupted by society via mind programming devices. They've been poorly trained and corrupted, that's why.

You ask why... I think the govt sees 8 billion humans, knows how they function and what an exponential growth curve looks like and knows they can't feed or manage them. So they come up with ways to bring that curve down. I'm sure you can think of solutions like governments can..."we'll... we can machine gun 'em like WWI... but nah, people get upset". "We could diminish via via chemicals... ya know, jack up their hormones in food supply and such"..."yeah... get on that Johnson (no relation to the company)". "We can screw their brains, so they won't even want to mate in spite of their biology... hahh hhhaaahhahahhhaaa..." ... loud Hillary laugh heard in the room.

The kids at my church... and it is swooming with young kids and teens, they want to mate and reproduce. I think they have a good chance. Other's without social order to protect them (whatever order that is)... are being screwed in the head by the Kardashians and media vomit "stars" and music.

In short... be VERY careful what you turn over your mind to via the "mind programming devices", watch your mate (s) carefully and children. The Govt was never on your side, nor the devil (adversary).

I wish you luck!

[motownplayer2000]

lol you blame social media and all the devices. Yet you fail to mention who puts those devices in there hands to begin with. They just happen to fall in there laps. I put some blame on the older generations for letting things get to where they are. You have the power and the wisdom to stop it. Before it got out of hand. But most of the parents and grandparents sat by and let the younger generation soak up the filth that’s out here. And then go and blame that generation for not knowing any better. lol it’s like telling a baby “you are going to die if you don’t feed yourself” and proceed to watch that baby die without making sure they have what they need. This generation hasn’t had good leadership from the start.

[lightbulb27]

@motownplayer2000 that's good point actually.
so then we start going the direction of old restrictive cultures. we restrict our kids but they still get too much. it's the parents... failing to discipline the kids... for the corrupt world they will have to live in.

[AaronKrieger]

Right now, we have 100% of our time we can focus to building our career and ourselves. When we are older we will not, so it's best to take advantage of that. Despite that, plenty of people want to be in relationships.

However, I think most of those people do not take dating seriously in the sense of thinking about it long-term. Plenty of people want relationships and to be romantic, but it's driven by not wanting to be alone. So they might date someone they're not crazy about or compatible with long-term.

[Avicenna]

If they can get hookups, they don’t need to commit

[BoopBoopBeep]

I spend a fair amount of time on college campuses so I speak to men and women a lot in that age group. I hear a lot of guys complain that women "aren't worth the hassle" to actually date. Like... DATE date... because "they're always playing games" and some of them add "it is easier just to hook up."

I'm not sure if I'd say all the women are all that interested in dating either though. Anecdotally I can say a lot of them are more interested in "situationships" I believe is what they're calling it now, or friends with benefits.

I think both men and women could be well served by highlighting how they stand out from their peers that would warrant actually dating, not just the appropriately swiped direction. Otherwise it's just a numbers game. If you're in a room with a dozen people and 11 want NSA sex and 1 wants dating, anyone with limited time/money is going to go for the NSA option. That describes a lot of people in that age group. To convince them to violate that standard there must be compelling reason presented.

Is what you're experiencing a prima facia issue, in that the 20-somethings you encounter have no interest in starting to date you or they say they are then peter out and never start, or start then change their minds after a brief while?

[Anonymous]

Dating is a joke these days you are right. You got men putting all their efforts in pursuing sex and a woman rather than bettering themselves. It’s all about looks… women out here putting their pussy on the internet and expect to be treated like a queen. They don’t care about trying to build a life together, they want the life to be in place and then to come along and benefit from it. It’s all about “take me to a fancy restaurant/dinner so I can make sure you can provide for me…” instead of actually getting to really know someone which requires ZERO resources except for some time and attention.


Yes, dating is a joke. Onlyfans making young women rich while still wanting the men to provide for them, while they can be disloyal and put themselves on the internet and use the excuse “that’s my work, but my boyfriend gets all the emotions…” lol which is laughable at best. And will proceed to shit on men actually working there ass off at something respectable for less than half of that.


The older generation watching it all happen without imparting wisdom and also enabling it by being standup role models in society (said sarcastically). Lots of blame to go around in this, but I blame men most of all. Stop being weak, paying for sex, subscribing and paying for OF when girls that wouldn’t date you in the first place will take your money while fucking a dude she is completely comfortable with and laughing at you. You all stop doing that you would have these girls reverting back to the way it should be.. having to treat men with respect and needing to do thing in a respectable way. (I highly discourage it but) if you have to watch it, there are a bunch of free shit online you can get and watch. Or you know, better yourselves, find a woman that’s worth it (which most likely not be in this westernized society) and do it the proper way.

[JacobJordan]

Many men do take dating seriously which is precisely why they are not getting into relationships. Modern western women have made it very clear for a lot of men that they are not looking for a serious relationship. They are looking for someone to pay for their lifestyle while she does whatever she wants. And the vast majority men do not want that. Pair that with the unattainable standards many modern women have, the metoo movement, the career oriented women, women with only fans, women with a high body count etc and by and large most women have exiled themselves from any chance at a healthy or happy relationship. Men worldwide want largely the same type of woman with some variations. And that does not include any of the above

[ohvanillalattegal]

What do they want women then?

[JacobJordan]

Kids, peace, companionship, emotional stability, support, encouragement etc. Men want a woman that is an addition to their life not a burden

[ProbablyClueless]

If I had to guess, I'd say it's because so many of the women they're attracted to have made such a point of being unpleasant to them.

The expectations so many women place on men, and then the complete lack of reliability, effort, and sensitivity they are willing to give the men in return simply isn't worth the effort.

[Anonymous]

Young guys don't understand there's a finite number of quality women. Young guys think at anytime they can decide, "OK now I'll get serious" instead of just having his fun. Then he realizes all the good women have been snapped up. But at that point there's nothing he cam do about it.

[Anonymous]

Historically dating was a means to an end. The intention was to date different people until you find "the one", and then marry them. That is no longer the case for the most part, because marriage is no longer the "carrot" for men that it used to be.

[HouseMoat]

Younger men, like younger women, SHOULD NOT take dating seriously. 17 year and 18 year olds should not be in seriously settled down relationships. My mom and dad didn't meet until they were in their early 30's. Married 35 years+ happily.

[ohvanillalattegal]

Very cute, sorry I meant to ask for age 20s.

[HouseMoat]

Same with 20's. It's a time to play the field. Like I said. My parents didn't meet until their low to mid 30's

[boggboss]

What do u mean by seriously many younger people are not looking to settle down because they are still enjoying the fun of being young

[normalice]

They want to increase the number of women they sleep with.

[exitseven]

When you are young you are not really thinking about marriage and kids and buying a house. You just want to get laid.

[aceleon]

womans this era is not worth taking seriously.

[KonkeyDong]

I value commitment. I wanna date.


Fate just won't let me. All the Girls are taken.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I don't think they don't want to take it seriously. It's just when you're young. You're Hormones are raging. You're all over the place, so they're just experimenting having fun living life.

[Iwishiwasasub]

Cos they only care about getting their willy wet at that age.

[Luckycharms12]

What can girl offer them to want be in a serious relationships

[shortster]

Most of them are immature

[Anonymous]

With older girls or with all girl?

[ohvanillalattegal]

Both