If both a guy and a girl post pics of their vacation together on their instagram does it mean they are official?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No, not necessarily

[DaveJord]

I said not necessarily. But I would assume there is more than a friendship going on. Official is subjective. I men even if they are just friends with benefits then I would still say it agreement and that is official in some way.

[Asker]

Okay but what except for friends with benefits do you have in mind when you say "more than friendship"? The girl and the guy are in one circle of friends and were also with another guy together on vacation. The 3 of them spend quite much time together

[DaveJord]

Oh, then I would not assume it's a romantic relationship in any way if there was a third person. Now if there were my friends... well I would joke about a threesome. But I would not assume anything seriously. All depends on the pics, because the pics will tell you how close they are or not in some way. But again, I would not just assume it's anything Official. but more or less I might assume if it's not official yet, it might be soon.

I mean when you see two people together and how they interact... it gives you some indication if they are intimate or not. But again, I would not just assume it without more facts.

[DaveJord]

Now if I was interested in a girl and she was posting pics with other guys on a vaction... well if I was interested in her, I might inquire with another female. I would be like, hey girlfriend you're a woman, look at this picture what do you think?

Women have a better scene for that stuff than most men. But at the same time if she is that close with other guy freinds, it would make me pause on wanting to date her.

[Asker]

No I didn't mean it like that. I mean they were once alone on vacation and on other occasions with other friedns of their group

[DaveJord]

Then yes, I would assume something is going on. Going on trips together with as a man and women puts whatever friendship they may have on a different level. At 47 years old, official or not doesn't really mean anything to me, unless there is a ring on the finger.

But I would not want to get involved with a woman that wants to date me but take trips with other men. No matter their friendship status.

[Asker]

Then why does he still glance at me secretly and heavily flirt with other women?

[Asker]

I mean he seems infatuated with her and barely official yet makes eyes at several other women

[DaveJord]

And this is why when I see a woman or man taking trips together it's a RED FLAG to me. Because you never really know the deal, do you?

It's odd on some level, but I avoid assuming assumptions. But if it does not feel right to me, then it does not feel right. That is all I need to know, and I never have to make assumptions about how it makes me feel.

[Asker]

dude it gets even better. this guy made me a romantic playlist when he knew this girl for about a year and stares at me with a deer in the headlights look when he sees me from afar

[DaveJord]

Trust your gut. Seems to me your eyes are wide open and you are thinking the right way.

[Asker]

i've been crushing on him for years but always tried to supress it because i had a feeling that he was a player :(

[Anonymous]

No, not necessarily.

[Asker]

But there is likely something going on?

[Opinion Owner]

Possibly