I don't respect my girlfriend. Why do I still feel guilty?

[Anonymous]

I love my girlfriend but I have lost all respect for her. She cannot hold a job and has panic attacks on a daily basis. She lied to me about keeping her job and come to find out she got fired. I'm busting my ass at my job trying to support both of us. I don't really even find her attractive anymore. Yeah she's physically pretty but everything else is a turnoff. I can't look at her the same way since she fucked up and lied to me. I am now flirting with other girls but I still feel bad even tho ik my current girlfriend is lazy and not long term material. How do I handle these situations? Any advice?

[bededazzle]

it’s kind of up to you to figure out why. if it were me, i would feel like i was abandoning someone in rough shape. i don’t mean this as judgment, but just saying that’s what would bug me. i think you have to try to understand why so you can learn what you need to learn. but beyond that, prolonged guilt is useless

[bededazzle]

oh i thought you broke up with her. you should do that before flirting around

[Asker]

Yeah she needs to know that if she doesn't get her shit together imma move onto another girl. I feel bad for doing it but I can't put up with her lies.

[bededazzle]

sure. it sounds like she is having a hard time at life though. you might feel even more guilty, i hope, if you are cruel to her

[boggboss]

Because u are doing somthing wrong and activlt cheating u respecting her has nothing to do with u activly cheating on your side because thats somthing u are doing wrong instead of breaking up with her

[Asker]

Im not cheating yet. Im just finding other girls a lot more appealing.

[boggboss]

U are actively flirting with other women and feeling guilty about it that to me shows you are cheating if your partner was doing the same u would be completely fine with it?