I feel like my girlfriend doesn't respect/value me enough. Where to go from here?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend had a streak where she'd get drunk, party etc. Before we met. I never did because I was too shy, plus I didn't like to drink. I feel like me not doing it makes me less sexy to her, and makes me a loser.

Now she doesn't party or anything with me a year and a half in our relationship, but its like we're married, no sex, we're both virgins still. She shows less attraction to me, which makes me spiteful. I can't talk to her about since, she usually says its in my head and uses just words, which don't help. I take care of her when she's sick, take her out all the time, solve her problems and while she says Thanks, I doubt she'd do the same for me.

What do I do? I love her and we connect, but I feel like she's not attracted to me anymore, and I feel like a "common boyfriend" since she doesn't initiate anything ever.

[Pegases]

When a woman doesn't respect you, the relationship is usually over because women only love men they respect. So you simply won't receive the kind of affection that we typically value from women in relationships, if she doesn't value and respect you as a man. The only solution here is to end it. I think a lot of men fall into this trap of not wanting to hurt a woman's feelings by walking away, but all those men are doing is sacrificing their own happiness for women that already don't appreciate them, which isn't fair to them. What's worst, most women know that men will sacrifice their happiness for them, because its essentially well known that that's how we show love. So as a man, you must value yourself enough to walk away from women that don't respect and/or appreciate you, and that is actually what causes women to respect and appreciate you. In a nutshell, healthy boundaries is how anyone avoids situations where they aren't being appreciated, and you've gotta be willing to stand on them because ultimately, no one respects a man that doesn't already respect himself. And this actually stands true for women as well. Lastly, she may come back, and if she does its your choice if you choose to take her back, but you must maintain your self respect. A woman must pour into you, just as you pour into her, and anything less is you disrespecting yourself, and that is unacceptable. Good Luck.

[martyfellow]

This is the standard dating proile. Exept for the no sex, these days...girls expect guys to do a lot ofr them, but they don't feel they need to appreciate it. If she's at all attractive, she knows she find a replacement ofr yu in a heartbeat, so she figures, why stress about his feelings?

I't go find someone who likes me! Not someone looking for amsement.

[Anonymous]

Stop doing so much for her and treating her the way she treats you. You didn't say she actually treats you bad but it may make her realize she is taking you for granted if she really is. At the very least you two are treating each other the same and the relationship is 50/50.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

End it.