Do bodies recognize good genetic matches before we consciously realise attraction?

[DermalPunch]

It happened, but only once in my life, where I was standing by someone and my body felt like it was lighting up like a switchboard.

We're a couple now but it was just so crazy.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have had it happen once.

He was a soldier, very fit, handsome, popular and bold.

(I had a crush on him ever since I was 6, he was my older cousin’s classmate and played rugby really well.

I always liked him in but he rarely noticed me, as I was a shy quiet 12 yo. And he was 15 or 16 years old.)

I met him again when I was 22… Before leaving to China…

I was living with my cousin and he came for a visit. I was a bit excited to know that he was coming, and I’d be able to see him, all -grown, after so many years of having a secret crush on him.

When he arrived, when we looked at each other’s eyes and it felt like the world stopped.

He was looking at me as if he saw something amazing, not noticing anyone else around,

As he went to the dining room, my cousin and her best friend sat next to him and chatted. I was shy and decided to help them with making coffee instead of sitting next to him, as I felt like my breathing was out of range and my body would give away just how much I liked him.

As I brought him coffee, he started talking to me instead of my cousin and her best friend.

He got so curious about me and what I was doing, we ended up being the ones who talked. We talked about everything, including his soldier stories, my favorite books, psychology and etc. I never thought we could find so much in common.

He stayed longer than he intended in the beginning.

And you could just feel that we were so pulled to each other.

Before he left, he came to me, put his hands on my waist, very gently and hugged me. As he hugged me, I had my head on his chest for a moment. And at that moment, I felt that he was the most right man for me. That every fiber of my body was embracing his closeness. It felt like meditation. We hugged and he asked my number before leaving.

Later on, we started texting and at one point he texted me something like this

“All my life I have been fighting, I have never felt peace, I always had to fight for it. Now though, I looked at your eyes and I felt the peace I have always been looking for. I never knew it was possible to feel it ever, I feel that you are born for me.”

We texted very often, he asked me out on a date, but I was leaving to China in 3 weeks and my cousin told me to stay away from him, because he had a past of a f**boy.

To me though, it felt like the rawest and purest attraction I’ve felt to a man for a long time. And I felt that everything he told me he really meant.

He really felt the peace when looking at me, but not because I am a very peaceful person, but because I was feeling the strange peace in his presence.

He was the type of man, who makes you feel very protected. Makes you think that doesn’t matter who wants to harm you, no one can, as long as he’s by your side.

I grew out of liking him…

That moment though felt really amazing and memorable.

[VictorMachiavelli]

This has mostly to do with pheromones, which are chemical signals we and all animals give off to influence behaviours such as aggression, marking territory, and mating.

We inhale them. Sometimes we can smell them, which is why we tend to like the natural smell of someone we're genetically compatible with and dislike the smell of those we don't.

Often we can't smell them though, and it's not only about the smell anyway. We have an organ inside the nose called the vomeronasal organ (VNO) which detects these pheromones and sends signals to the brain, and these signals work subconsciously.

[DermalPunch]

That must be it.

[Levin]

I was on a tram and there was something energetic flaring up. I could not help it. She was a tasty girl and I was delighting in how she looked. I couldn't help but get a bit excited... The girl kept looking at me, too. Those kinds of attractions are nice when it is sexual, physical, but you also appreciate her beauty. The kind of girl where you want to look into their eyes and their soul. There's a nice kind of sensuality to it.

[Anonymous]

I felt a similar feeling recently when I was closer than normal to this woman who is crushing on me at the gym; I had this "electric" sensation in my head; supposedly they call this "chemistry". But it only happened when beside her, and she usually positions herself four paces away.

[patrick994]

I have never experienced such a feeling to be honest.

[DermalPunch]

It's really something.

[NamerOfStars]

Histocompatibility certainly says so- although usually you're not going to be kissing someone unless you already feel attracted to them. Some kind of pheromonal thing doesn't seem too unlikely.

[DermalPunch]

No not kissing. Just standing next to them and feeling your body reacting to them.

[AmeerX]

It has happened with me too but I don't rely on genetics alone because if I did I did end up a supremacist to my clan but I hate those things. I like interracial marriage to be more suitable now.

[Andres77]

That would fall into the “chemistry” category. Everything clicks before you even start to talk to each other.

[boggboss]

Not somthing I have heard before

[DermalPunch]

Ok. Have you felt it.

[boggboss]

Nope

[Anonymous]

It kind of depends on the overall shallowness of her. Some women are very shallow some women are only slightly.

[DermalPunch]

What?

[bededazzle]

yes i think so. but some of that is outmoded

[Nikki1989]

Does this even happen?

[DermalPunch]

Yes, it does hence the question.

[msc545]

I don't think so.