We tend to be drawn to opposites out of curiosity or looking for someone else to carry us in areas we are challenged or don't choose to apply ourselves. Being with people who are different give us the opportunity to grow, as we become exposed to things we never previously knew existed. Being with clones of ourselves leads to little or no growth. Never think the other's abilities will rub off on us.
If you're drawn to someone who is good at balancing a checkbook, because you're less than ideal in that area, don't expect to gain confidence from being with that person. You'll just rely on that person to balance the checkbook and end up feeling more insecure over time.
What attracts us to people in the first place is they are different. We don’t go out looking for someone who is just like everyone else. We want someone who is unique and special to us. Unfortunately, once we hook them, we say “Now, you need to become just like me.” Assuming the other will expect us to change, we often pressure the other to change first. The more insecure a person is, the more that person will want the other to change to be seen as less of a threat.
Though a relationship with a clone of ourselves tends to become boring over time, the opposite can become very disconcerting. Differences are good, but extremes will be very uncomfortable. Though we're drawn to differences, similarities provide us more stability over time. The key is to get the right balance for us... enough difference to allow for growth but not to the point where we feel like a fish out of water.
We attract all kinds of people based more on what their perceptions of who we are, are, then who we actually are on the inside. From my experience, I believe that being opposite or the same is less relevant to a healthy relationship than being compatible, more a matter of being similar in the right kinds of things, being different in the right kind of things, and being able to fill those gaps we each have that need filling, (to borrow a page from Sylvester Stallone's Rocky Balboa -- "she has gaps, I have gaps. Together, we fill gaps.)"
similar. i dont understand the whole opposites attract concept when it comes to people. if you have wildly different beliefs and likes, then all you'll ever do is argue. just imagine a hardcore liberal dating a hardcore conservative... i dont think thatd end too well. sure differences are good, but i think for the most part similarities is what attracts us to each other. i mean think about it, when your tying to connect with someone you look for things you have in common to talk about, otherwise the convo will be very dull (or worst case, end in argument)
You need someone similar to you when it comes to your core values and beliefs. And you need him/ her different so you can compliment each other and remain challenged and interested.
I can't be with an exact match of me or total opposite. We just have to be compatible. Your strength and weaknesses should compliment each other so as a team you are strong 🌹
------------------When we have too much in common it can get boring and stale quick. When opposites get together their are much more things to discuss and debate.
Ever see a girl arguing with a guy in a bar? Her friend dude looks at this dude like what an asshole and saves the woman from distress only to find out she is back at it with him 15 minutes later.
I love this question the picture on your post is right on the magnet is energy. We are made of energy. We are made of water and atoms. ATOMS BROKE DOWN =ENERGY. NOW I don't know if I'm right but this is how I feel I'm and empath I take people pains hurt sorrow. With in 15 mins of talking to them looking at them or touching them. HOW CAN I DO THAT. THE ONLY WAY IS ENERGY ,,, MOW IN SAYING THAT. ,, HERE ANOTHER THING I DON'T KNOW BUT ITS WHAT I FEEL IM A VIRGO. PISCES IS MY OPPOSITE BUT KEEPS ME BALLANCE TRY SOMETHING GET 2 MAGNETS HOLD THEM 1 INCH APART DONT LET THEM TOUCH ON ONE SIDE THEY WILL COME TOGETHER ON THE OTHER SIDE THEY TRY TO COME TOGETHER BUT THEN FIGHT EACH OTHER BUT FILL THE FEELING BETWEEN BOTH MAGNETS THAT THE NEGATIVE SIDE THE POSITIVE WILL GO TO GETHER WITH KNOW FEELING I WOULD LOVE TO TELL YOU WHAT IM TRYING TO SAY BUT U HAVE TO MESSAGE ME BECAUSE MY BOSS JUST SHOWED UP AND I GOTTA GO SORRY ANYWAY OPPOSITE
I think when we're young and inexperienced, we gravitate towards people who are not like us because it's unknown and interesting, but as we get older and more experienced, we realize that similarities have been underappreciated. In the long run, people who stick with people who are too different do not end up well together. This is a fact for just about everybody. If not, everybody.
I tend to be attracted to the opposite, and it's usually a good thing because we complement each other where we should. Guys who are more like me tend to talk to me much more than the guys I'm attracted to who are opposite though. I don't know, maybe there's more to it than just like and opposite.
I've found that I'm attracted to Girl that has qualities that I may feel like are not as easy for me. An example would be an out going person that shines in the spotlight. I've always been shy and wish I could be as free as some people. A so I'm attracted to girls that are opposite in the areas that I'm not the strongest at.
Definitely similar... more easy to relate to and understand... that’s why me and a girl get on so well and such good friends... she’s my one true love...
The girls in my past who were opposite to me... the relationship didn’t last more than a year cos we jus didn’t understand each other and had too much of a different mindset, which created conflict
I actually don't know who I attract, since girls are usually more secretive about such. As for what kind attracts me, to a certain extent, perhaps. Both of my crushes were female and more outgoing. But in regards to religion, politics, or other important views absolutely not.
Opposite every time. A mate should complement you in character, habits, and interests. Both of you are better as a team than as an individual. As a couple, if you are not functioning as a single unit something is wrong.
I personally attract and want to attract a partner who's similar to me. I can't date someone who's the opposite of me. Tired once and it wasn't a good experience our personalities tended to collide really badly.
You have to have a mix of both. We all think differently and that is what makes us interesting and yet we have so much more in common and that's what we will use to relate with one another.
I have to be with someone that's the complete opposite of me. It keeps things interesting and fun. If i was with someone similar life would be really boring and predictable.
I think we attract similar people. It's evolution. When people have similar interests they can combine forces and promote their ideas, ideals, and agendas. This is how civilization started
So, obviously this question's answer depends on the nature of person. For me, it's the opposite. I feel I get bored if my partner is same as me. Where will the new things and ideas come from?
