Look, If you're the kinda man or woman that is always complaining about the opposite gender you are involved in relationships with being no good, unsupportive, trashy, loud, argumative etc.
Than look no further than yourself. There's something about you. (Yes, You!) Whether you admit it or not. You need to check your character and what you value as a person. There's a reason you keeping hooking up with jerks or trashy women.
Let me simplify it for you in the easiest way possible why it happens. Because you like it! You value it. You find it attractive. In the essence of your core as a person you are exactly just like the person you are attracted too. You yourself like drama, you're a pretender yourself, you have a bad attitude, you're dishonest, you're controlling, you're full of ego, pride and selfish, but just detest to be givin a taste of your own medicine. So quit being a hypocrite in dishing out to others what you hate receiving from others.
We The Jury Have Found The Defendant Guilty!
Ok, I know that you're probably pissed off at me from for exposing your garbage character and digging up past relationships failure wounds of the previous stanza. But truth be told you are the common denominator! You are the one that constantly bounce from woman to woman and man to man. Something is wrong with you.
Start becoming better a person in terms of being honest, humble, kind, nice attidude, respectful. Value such things as those and practice them and I can almost guarantee that you will attract other men and women that posses those beautiful and admirable qualities.
Conclusion:
Be honest up front when you are interested in dating somone. Quit putting up a facade and lying your butt off. Tell them what you desire in them and what are your expections. Be honest and open about your flaws. They have flaws too. Because if you keep pretending and playing games, it shows at some point in the relationship. So better to be honest from the beginning to spare the surprise headaches and heartaches in the end.
I've had a toxic relationship before. My ex was a possessive guy and always tried to make use of my emotional sensitivity. But I was willing to give more than he ever wanted and never minded him talking to girls. But as a human being I had my own flaws too, and I admit I used to be very petty and gossipy about my ex, but he didn't talk much about me with his friends. I never showed his pics to anyone, my pictures got viral in his class.
We both had our own faults but we didn't share anything like that in common. But we both were very bookish and science freak type of nerdy people. None of us were better it worse, but we were bad in totally different ways.
My ex used to complain about my guy friends and tell me that I flirt with 100 boys daily like wth I never do that. Months after our breakup I got to know from some of my girl friends that he used to flirt with them but my friends didn't want to hurt me. I would always complain about my ex never being happy with me, but I myself was never happy with him too, heck, I was insecure about myself let alone relationship.
I still appreciate my ex for giving me one of the most bitter lessons in life. And so what he broke my heart... he directed me towards someone who will take care of my heart by breaking up with me. I try my best not to repeat my mistakes again and I can't explain in words how happy we are... I really hold no grudges for my past.
One final thing... this is not true in case of fuckboys hitting on girls randomly. Thanks to genetics I'm pretty curvy and I get a lot of attention from guys around for that. You cannot tell that I attract guys because I want it. No, in fact I always felt blessed to never have school crush dramas, too much distraction in lectures and waste of time and parent's money in school.
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Dude. You do realize that most people here are single and have usually been single right? Also, complete lie. I can act as the best person ever! I can go all out to be all I can be? Does that guarantee love? Fuck no. You say "blame yourself" so much assuming the reader is all that you stated. Truth is, many aren't Truth is, many people are the things you encouraged people to be, but life has NO GUERENTEE of getting better. Period. You do good cause it's good. Reward or not. Likely, much good has rewards? Yes. But a TRUE do-gooder does good whether life shits on them or not. If life gets better, GREAT! If not, then OTHER PEOPLE are then to blame. And oh well, time to die and move on. What was tried as doing good didn't work. You attempted. You did your best to be your best. But life gets shitty. So ok. Whatevs. For me at the very least, it provides satisfaction either way. Because on one hand, my life gets better. On the other, I can feel great knowing I was smarter to know that all the shit about religion and stuff were lies. And if life gets that shitty, AT LEAST I could die satisfied.
I think I attract the bad types because of my innocent face and Naïvity. Still I won't say that I am that much a bad person. I hate arrogance, am humble, kind, give more than I should. Its more of a fairytale really. I am before anything else Honest. I do however, kick them to the curb when I try to change them (worst mistake) and it doesn't work.
I'm not a bad person (at least I don't I am) but I am shallow.
I've been attracted the "bad boys" because they seem fun. I have liked the attention from them because wow, how could a fun, cool guy like that want me? At the time it seems amazing but I don't realize how messed up it all was until AFTER I get my heartbroken. So yeah, I'm dumb and look at the wrong things.
So why are some of these ladies dating and falling in love with thugs and gangsta wannabes that do drugs, beat on them, cheat on them, get them pregnant and leave them for a ghetto hoochie but are still in love with them instead of a man who will treat them right?
Because it's their nature. These guys are 'exciting', they make the pussy tingle, and they seem like they offer the best chance at survival for both the woman and the offspring. Thugs beget strong children, at least to a woman's lizard brain. Then after they have the thugspawn, they need a provider type to make sure that the kid will be fed, clothed, etc, since Mr Thug has disappeared or she kicked him out of her life and the kid's life.
Women haven't evolved at all since the Ice Age, because the mating strategy that worked for them in the Ice Age continues to work for them.
But what if I tell that I am a CEO of a company and make $120.000 in a year and will only attract gold diggers by telling this truth? Isn't a relationship about being honest? (I am not earning that much and neither am I CEO. Just a thought.)
You don't deserve to see one. I post bible passges for My christian brothers and sisters or somone that really desires a answer from the bible. The Lord Jesus told us Christians not to cast pearls before the swine.
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