Is online dating dead?

Question

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

It is dead only for those who don't realize that it is different than meeting someone in person, and it requires effort and a different approach. Next April, I'm getting married to a girl I met online, so I don't think it's dead.

Apparently, some people still believe that online dating means that you only correspond online and you never meet in peson. If that's what you believe, I can understand why you wouldn't be interested.

Bricealan · Accepted Answer

I dont' know, Coach. My only online thing was back b4 COVID with the couple in Fullerton... and that was a good experience. I wish I could do it over again or meet up with them now... Good people, I thought.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

One can only hope it is 🤣

Lliam · Answer

"On-line dating" is an oxymoron. You can connect with people on-line, but that's not dating. An actual date is face to face, in person. People who are too apprehensive or too picky to meet and get to know someone in person are not into dating. You can't "date" on-line.

Example: Let's say you meet someone at school, work or wherever. You are friendly with each other and there are signals of attraction. At some point, you have to ask that person out to do something together. When you go out, that's a date. All the talking to them before hand wasn't a date.
And it's the same on-line.

Before on-line dating, you met people randomly during your daily activities. It you were attracted to them, you asked them on a date in order to get to know more about them.

But with on-line dating, you can form fantasies about your ultimate perfect partner and then search through thousands of photos and bios from around the world for a unicorn. If you connect with someone, you then engage in endless interviewing - resumes and background checks - via text conversations. Those usually go sideways because people aren't sincere. They're playing a game.

You can't observe mannerisms and behaviors that might make them super attractive. All you're looking at on-line are metrics like height, photographs, income, relationship history, etc. But you can't even assess their truthfulness.

Until you meet in person, you are dealing with an avatar.

I can see the attraction of searching on-line, but I think it has made people shallow and unrealistic. Fantasy as opposed to productive. It's for people who are married to their devices and don't interact in the real world.

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't think many people like dating apps because of what they associate with it. For girls, it's a lot of sleazy guys trying to get in their dms and having trouble filtering the genuine ones with the fake ones. For guys it's the difficulty of even getting a conversation going and having to be judged so harshly because of the ridiculous amount of competition. It's depressing... more so for men than women, because at least women get attention and have their pick of the crop. But according to Forbes, the percentage of individuals partners on dating sites is about 70%. So obviously it still works.

https://www. forbes. com/health/dating/dating-statistics/

NathanDavis · Answer

I would not know, I've never used it... none of my friends or people I know used it, nobody in my family or coworkers use it...

I only got to hear about it here, since I joined G@G and for what I've seen from some it seems like it was never really alive for some... lol

Fireguy17 · Answer

It really depends on what you are actually looking for, just someone for a 1 night stand or a relationship.
As, free sites are generally not geared for those looking for a relationship.
The better pay to join sites like its just lunch, eharmony are geared for those who are more serious about finding someone special, not just 1 and done.
Those people can join and be accepted as a member, but if they are blatant about it they, usually men, can be reported and removed from the site. The cost helps eliminate that type of person.
They are usually geared for mid 20s on up.
That is where I met my wife, so I know it works, but it is still a fair amount work to find "the one".

Staximus · Answer

I don't know, I took myself out of the online dating scene a while ago. Tinder banned me for posting a picture of myself carrying a shotgun while hiking through some canyons in New Mexico looking for the Forrest Fenn treasure. The shotgun was to keep my friend's kids from getting eaten by mountain lions and to discourage claim jumpers but the liberals couldn't handle it.

Anonymous · Answer

Just because there are many dating apps out there, I think its a very small % of people who meet on the app, like each other and end up marrying each other. Dating apps are meant in my opinion for two grown adults to make a commitment long term and eventually tie the knot. But girls and women have extremely high expectations and are non-responsive with the abundance of messages and likes they get. Guys are often left ghosted, overlooked, and reliant on these stupid apps. A guy doesn't have to be Brad Pitt and Henry Cavil, but if he takes care of himself, in shape, works hard and has confidence to approach women or girls, I would think he could get more dates with women then being on the app. I think dating apps aren't dying necessarily but it doesn't really work and I think eventually it will fade away like how other platforms slowly became less popular such as MySpace from the early to late 2000s, MSN Messenger, Facebook, BBM, Vine and others.

Curmudgeon · Answer

It is still popular, NOT because it is good - far from it, but because other options for meeting "significant others" or even worse, or have become worse (too risky, too much downside, or too costly) in the current society. For example, I wouldn't dare try dating someone from work, unless the job was just temporary and was not in any way possibly a career.

razelove · Answer

I'd say it isn't dead so much as passive. You "date" online now to just spread further and hook-up if your cold approach and circles you're moving in are going slow.

Like if you're going hunting, you throw a net with little bait into a stream before you do so. You really don't care too much what comes up in that net when you get back, it's all bonus. I viewed it that way 10+ years ago, and still do now.

Guanfei · Answer

Still popular, but online dating doesn't work. Because the apps are made to keep you on it. They don't get anything from people leaving the app, so they do what they can to keep you there and make you pay.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I wouldn't know. From what I know most online dating seems to be for short term relationships (hook-ups, friends with benefits, etc.).

genericname85 · Answer

It was never alive XD like it has always been the hopeless shit show that it is too day. Few people get lucky. Most will uninstall cause it's a waste of time.

Anonymous · Answer

It's dead to me at least. I never got anything out of it, yet I'm very popular in person: all it took was getting out more to realise. Just a time and money pit for women dependant on external validation; with no desire to interact with me, just to prove their worth.

Unit1 · Answer

Yeah, there are mostly only bitches, who have nothing more to offer than their looks and they are collecting likes for validation only. There is almost no serious dating on there.

legalboxers · Answer

all spambots people from other countries who lie... yeah...

StirredNotShaken · Answer

Just "dating' is dead. Online sex is thriving.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Yes. But online hookups are Alive , Burning and well

Sparkie460 · Answer

I have no idea. I've never used on line dating. It wasn't around when I was dating years ago

Shiningtempest · Answer

@coachtanthony Considering the number of people using online dating apps, I highly doubt online dating is dead.

msc545 · Answer

Dead but not buried which is why it smells bad.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Was it ever alive?

Anonymous · Answer

Online dating is the only way to date post MeToo and Covid.

Fxjjxhhccbgcfccc · Answer

I don't know, you tell us. Isn't this your "profession"? You claim to be a dating coach (as ridiculous as that sounds), so you should have the answers

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Has it ever been alive, I wonder. Certainly, these apps provide "results" every now and then. But so does the lottery.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Nope still popular. Especially since it's the main way people meet these days.. Although, it maybe dying a slow death... Maybe..

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, lots of Catfish, liars, Shattered dreams

exitseven · Answer

I think people are getting away from it. They see what a trainwreck it is.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It was a dumpster fire for me during the short time I attempted it, so I am biased in saying "Yes."

McKellar · Answer

Well I do know catfishers are making online dating look bad. Especially for those who are looking for a serious relationship.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No looking at someone profile can never get feel for person or judge. Never done online dating never will not my thing

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

no, it just showed us how the genepool works in the ugliest way possible

Apple1996 · Answer

Was it ever alive? 🤔

Anonymous · Answer

My guess would be most people still meet this way.

Anonymous · Answer

As dead as G@G. Both still exist and neither for what they were intended.

TrumpsNutsack · Answer

The day online dating dies will be the day technology dies.

clampfan101 · Answer

It’s popular despite being dead.

pickles77 · Answer

Online dating isn’t dead but the culture is

Simslover92 · Answer

Unfortunately it's not

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Nah it's not

SolitarySolace · Answer

It was never alive to begin with

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Yes and it's abouttime

Chthou95 · Answer

For women, no. For men, it always has been

jamesgoldman · Answer

One can but hope

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