Have you ever been rejected because of the way you look?

[Anonymous]

Has someone said to you, no thanks, don't want to date you because you aren't my (preference) type, or you're a little or not enough X for me, or I only date people who look like X, or whatever. How did you handle that rejection? Did you actually try to change after the rejection, or you just moved on, or it messed with your head for a while.

[Rei13]

There was only one person who told me that was the reason, I’m sure it was similar in the past for other people. He basically told me everything he liked about me. That we were compatible personality-wise, my face was pretty and he liked my butt but he couldn’t get past my stomach. He also liked taller girls that were blonde which I am not and will never be lol. He asked if I would dye my hair for him and I said no. I decided pretty quickly I didn’t want him after that. His reasoning was hypocritical due to him not being skinny either and having multiple other flaws appear-wise that I overlooked that he was insecure over that I’m not going to list. It was however great motivation to lose weight which I did and ended up with someone that likes me regardless of what I weigh. It did mess with me for awhile because I was never insecure about my appearance and it made me feel like I should be, but you just got to let that stuff go and be the best version of yourself you can be

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Yes. We were long distance and had been talking for a few months. One day he asks if we can talk. He then tells me he doesn’t want to be in a relationship and confesses that he just wasn’t attracted to me. It stung, but I could tell he felt guilty about it. He told me he loved everything about my personality, but the attraction just wasn’t there and he couldn’t pinpoint the reason. So I let him go, had a good cry, and spent some time with good friends.

Now I’m with someone who loves my personality and the way I look.❤️ Some things must come to an end to make way for the things that are better.

[pass_the_celery98]

Awesome story, glad it worked out for ya.

[RingOfFire]

I've pretty much been the one who has turned down advances in the past, can't recall it happening to me. But except for one women who I am dealing with now, I don't think I ever gave any of them a real reason why... I tried to be nice about it and either lied that I was seeing someone even if I wasn't at the time or something like that. I would never tell a woman I don't find her attractive. That's just too crass.

The woman who won't leave me alone now is a former girlfriend who is now married. I keep telling her not to contact me because I don't want to communicate with her behind her husband's back but she always finds some excuse and I don't want to be mean to her so I am too tolerant. If she keeps it up I will have no choice but to block her.

[Flatmanlewis]

Well, I’m a man so asking out women when I was single was basically a numbers game. If you ask out X number girls you’re going to face Y times that you are rejected. I never took it personal because I too, have a “type” and expect most women have don’t too.
I undoubtedly did the same thing to a few girls who asked me out but they were not my type as well.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have never been rejected because of my looks but I know am not everyone’s type and there are much prettier girls out there, so I wouldn’t be surprised if someone didn’t like my looks. It’s only natural. Not everyone will be into you.

I judge myself strictly and objectively. I know I am not an angel, I know there are far better looking girls out there and worse looking as well. I am fine with being average. Thankfully, I can use what I have smartly.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It also helps that growing up, all my cousins were prettier than me, all my family members too, so when we were having holidays together, I was asked out mainly because of my personality, not just my looks.

And if someone was into me, I knew that he must have really liked my personality.

[menina]

Yes, of course. I'm black and I'm attracted to white guys.

There was a guy I was into. My friends and other people knew that I liked him. One day, a friend of him came up to me and said "do you really think he would ever date you? You're black". That was one of the most shocking things I've ever heard.

I mean, I already knew that he didn't like me back. But I didn't need to hear that. It hurt for a while, but then I moved on. And I didn't change anything because I can't change my skin color. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

Now, if I'm interested in a white guy I never say or do anything. Don't want to go through this again.

That being said I'm NOT saying that all white men are racist. I'm also NOT saying that white guys should be attracted to me or to black women in general. We all have our preferences and I understand that.

[therandomfail]

It happens more times than not. Part of being a guy is learning to take the positivity from criticism, even if it hurts. I try to improve myself for my own sake, and when I'm in the right headspace, I take rejection as guiding stars on what I can work on or do better.

[JacobJordan]

Absolutely. Was quite regular. Course they always miraculously found me quite attractive when they learned I had money.

[Malwi93]

Was it a lot? 😄

[JacobJordan]

@Malwi93 hm I guess technically it would count as a lot as every woman I approached reacted the same until I met the woman I married. But I also didn't approach that many women. Maybe 4/5

[NathanDavis]

rejected? no, never...

but I rarely or never asked anyone to date me or go out with me just based on "How Do I Look"

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Probably. But it was just more of they see me as a friend I think.

[Monalisa77]

Not said anything but clearly why things didn't work out😭

[LiamJHayden]

Of course. Wrong height (too tall), wrong race, not bulky enough. Once for having green eyes because "F-boys have light-colored eyes." Just part of life on this weird planet.

[annabananna]

No I just had someone date me be my boyfriend and then complain about the way I looked which is weird.

[exitseven]

When I was fat in high school it was a daily occurrence

[Anonymous]

Mostly girls rejected me because I didn't know how to be "daddy" for them.

[dragoblack]

I'm 31 and never had a girlfriend... what do you think?

[Nifrayu]

No, but... I've rejected others for that reason...

[Jmmmfi4]

IM SURE I HAVE THATS PROBABLY WHY I MAKE NO EFFORT

[Luckycharms12]

No one ever really says why they rejected you. But not bad looking guy but people have a type

[Minahh]

No. At least I've never been told it's because of my looks.

[Apple1996]

Yes a few times 😣

[Nikki1989]

Nope, never.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yeah, cause of my height

[PeachyPie93]

Yes, unfortunately.

[KostasKouvalis]

Story of my life

[trellbrown84]

every single goddamn fucking day.

[loyalhumblesmart20]

Yes all the time

[Anonymous]

Well I’m beautiful so…

[sheikalana]

Never.

[scott04sa22]

Oh yes, all the time

[AnusNdaPainus]

Yes Harshly

[KittygosMeoWW]

Nope

[TiaNour]

Yeah