There is a guy I met. He seems nice. However, when we first met in person, he talked a lot. Like a lot. He was really the only one talking. I interrupted him occasionally to give my 2 cents, but that was about it. I am more of a listener, but I wanted to contribute to the conversation as well, if only for a little but. Plus, I notice that even when we are on the phone, he never asks me questions about myself. He just talks about random things. For example, his jobs, random facts he knows, and his opinions.
I felt we weren't going to have a relationship other than being associates or friends at the most. I probably won't rush to hang out with him again. Let's say we come from two different sides of town. To him window shopping, sitting in malls is his idea of fun. I dont mind sitting down and talking, especially in the right location. However, he seems pretty cheap, which is no shade to him. I understand where he is coming from. However, i believe once and while you should treat yourself.
It seems he only wants to go out if it's free. Like, the museum was free one day and i couldn't go because it was last minute. I didn't bother to ask if we could go another day because he probably would say we would have to pay. I wanted to go, especially as a date, possibly. I believe after that we discussed this and i mentioned something he should buy because he was complaining. It was a joke like when people say, "Go buy a burger than." He took it literally and flat out called me lonely, which i was offended because where did that come from. How can he just make an assumption like that?
He seems nice it's just the nonstop talking. He won't text me because he likes to be on the phone talking, but I don't want to be on the phone for 3 hours. He said something in the past I side eyed. I did not know how to feel about it. It has been stating me ever since. I guess should I stop talking to him altogether or just talk occasionally?
I felt we weren't going to have a relationship other than being associates or friends at the most. I probably won't rush to hang out with him again. Let's say we come from two different sides of town. To him window shopping, sitting in malls is his idea of fun. I dont mind sitting down and talking, especially in the right location. However, he seems pretty cheap, which is no shade to him. I understand where he is coming from. However, i believe once and while you should treat yourself.
It seems he only wants to go out if it's free. Like, the museum was free one day and i couldn't go because it was last minute. I didn't bother to ask if we could go another day because he probably would say we would have to pay. I wanted to go, especially as a date, possibly. I believe after that we discussed this and i mentioned something he should buy because he was complaining. It was a joke like when people say, "Go buy a burger than." He took it literally and flat out called me lonely, which i was offended because where did that come from. How can he just make an assumption like that?
He seems nice it's just the nonstop talking. He won't text me because he likes to be on the phone talking, but I don't want to be on the phone for 3 hours. He said something in the past I side eyed. I did not know how to feel about it. It has been stating me ever since. I guess should I stop talking to him altogether or just talk occasionally?
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Ouch hurry and block him!
Like 4 red flags there
Over talking
Not caring about your stuff
Being so cheap
Needing to talk for 3 hours and not text.
Like you have stuff to do!
My sister said the same thing about red flags, and I'm like, I guess.
Well listen to your sister and soon after the feelings fade you will dump him
I'd investigate a little more first. Some people over talk when they get nervous.
You make a valid point. I did not mention he actually admitted he talks a lot when he misunderstood what I said the day we hung out. He could have been nervous, but he didn't seem any different than when we talked on the phone. 🤔