Guys, What you need to do for success with online dating and How to make a profile that will actually work?

[xheymanx]

Looking for help from other guys on setting up my profile for Success in online dating using a thoughtful and strategic approach, beginning with the creation of a compelling profile. Please provide examples on how to make a profile that stands out and increases the chances of finding a meaningful connection, help with starting with an attention-grabbing headline that reflects the personality or interests. If your ok with it, I can Provide a mix of photos ( which isn't much, I never took photos of myself) that showcase different aspects of my life. I' also would love help Crafting a bio that is both engaging and honest, highlighting your passions, values, and what you're looking for in a partner. Also, When engaging in conversations, I know I need to be genuine, but fall short when it comes to getting an initial response. Help from guys who have success with online dating is greatly appreciated.

[Effably]

Online dating where? A website and an app are worlds apart. With what purpose?

The gist is that you want enough to create a persona and sense of who you might be and not so much that you lose mystery.
Dating, flirting and attraction in genera is largely about interest. And interest is very much about being intriguing. That is easiest done by leaving people hungry and curious.

As a bonus this also means that you get things to explore. It might soune complicated but basically figure out which archetype you fit into, throw in some of your traits that give it a twist and that's your bio. Personal, forward, informative, easy to grasp, and stands out.

For pictures if you want to share them we can see if they're good enough.
I usually recommend that you look over your social network. Ask the most photo-talented person to help out. Produce a bunch of professional photography quality photos in exchange for a lunch or two and that is what you work with.
Even going to a professional photographer is well worth it as you will get some great photos for social media, CVs and so on too. I stress this because most guys have 4 random photos of themselves that just look kind of okay and you're losing a lot on that.

Rather than making an essay try to remember that less is more for a profile/bio. And for what you're looking for, that should follow the same guideline. Either don't say it or say it with very little.

There's a lot to go into but its mostly me guessing what you want. Looking at your age and such I suppose it might be more about a real partner than a warm bed to get tangled up in a few times a week. And those play differently.

[xheymanx]

As for my pics. I seriously have 2. ones a headshot of me and the other me sitting on the couch smiling. As for friends, that's a big zero. I haven't had any of those in ages, which is something else I'm trying to change about my life. My therapist is helping with some stuff. But I'm mainly trying to be a part of life again, instead of just watching it on the sidelines. Ever since my early 30s and stopped going to bars, clubs, etc. for the lack of a better choice of words I became a shut in. then had an accident that rendered me disabled, which is why I go to the gym so much. For me trying to kick up conversation with people in general is like trying to teach an organutan calculus. My social skills are non-existent.

[Effably]

Hey, that's fine.

Now if professional photos is reasonable to you. Do it. If not? If you have the sack for it ask someone who seems to know what they're doing. Tell them what the photos are for. People like helping and can get very invested. Even some random people in town.

And if not, what you have works I suppose. Although good photos really is a cheat code to online dating. Not misleading photos, just good. You will want more than two. Four is a happy medium, but again depends on what we're talking about.

Good on you putting yourself out there. Remember online dating is not a real reflection. Whether successful or not, it says little about you.

[Oliverlogan263]

Alright bro, listen up - I've had some success with online dating so lemme school you real quick:

For photos - selfies in your bedroom ain't gonna cut it. Ask your squad to take some candids of you out doing your thing - at the gym, playing sports, kicking it with friends. Chicks dig a guy who's social and active.

For your bio - keep it lighthearted but also say what you're about. List some hobbies but also a line about wanting an awesome girl to enjoy life with. Keep it short - like 3-4 sentences max.

Your first message gotta pop - comment on something specific from their profile, ask a fun question, give them a cool compliment. Don't just say "Hey what's up" like every other schlub.

Engage with their response - follow up within a day with at least 3 messages back and forth. Keep it playful, tease them a little. Emojis help show you're not too serious.

Most important - don't take it too personally if you don't always get replies. Online dating is a numbers game, you just gotta put in the reps. Stay positive and it'll happen for you bro, trust.

With a tight profile showing your fun side and some smooth convo skills, you'll be scoring digits in no time my guy. Just go for it!

[slatyb]

Humor helps. Don't brag about your accomplishments or possessions. Talk about your personality, good and bad, and your interests. Be specific. Don't try too spread to every women, try to speak to the women you want to meet. Be positive, never describe people you don't want to meet. That's a huge turn-off. From my old profile:

My ideal Sunday morning is to wake up, make coffee, make love, do o the NYT crossword, go out for some fun.

Says a lot about me in a few words: sexual, intellectual, not religious, not into the Sunday football game. It worked quite well -- it attracted women I wanted to meet and turned off most of these ones I didn't.

[OddBeMe]

First decide what is success. Finding someone or just cruising?