What comes first in attraction - friendship or lust?

[stratford]

Do you normally feel lust and then it develops or normally like someone as a friend and then develop lustful feelings?

[Altheavas]

Okay! No, so I usually was on top of my game. It was always a choice, so I always had control of my game.
Yeah, like yeah if there’s mutual interest, and yeah let’s see where this goes.

However this is the first time, I guess I experienced real attraction cause I didn’t have control on it. 1st I was emotionless, then I kept observing, and his sass got me giggle inside. Then, I found myself thinking of that whatever that attraction was non stop. I was like shit, what is this, no!(3x). That’s not how I usual do my shit. I was in real war with myself, still can’t agree with it….!
If I was hunting/fishing I wouldn’t straightly go after him. So I don’t know the correct order, but I guess attraction comes first.


That’s not gonna happen again, it’s too unstable for me. Gonna Kill all feelings. Hot, sexy, handsome, smart, or not! Peace out!

[Anonymous]

Usually it starts out as me finding that person attractive, someone that I’d consider dating just bcs I like the way they look or their vibe, followed by lustful feelings. But I need to get to know them and develop some kind of friendship with them to actually consider dating them for real.

[RobT312]

It has happened both ways for me. If it’s pure attraction and I don’t really know them yet, then it’s lust first. But I have also had friendships evolve into lust

[NathanDavis]

I don't really entertain lustful urges... so, it is not something I "develop"

friendships I do... when they do reciprocate

[Hawkes_Lady]

I need to be attracted to the person to want to take the relationship to the next level but want to have at least some level of friendship before moving to lust and sex.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont think friendship has come first since after college

[stratford]

You have a high libido?

[DizzyDesii]

Not unless there's a finger or dick actually in me. Im just saying that i haven't tried to be friends first since school. Now i date first and become friends along the way

[menina]

I usually feel lust which develops. I've never liked someone as a friend first.

[IslaTheWitch]

The personality. Then, the connection (can be friendship as well)

[DancingQueen16]

I say friendship because my boyfriend and I were best friends for like 7 years before we started dating

[antelope51]

I'd say the onset is about the same... but one has more long-term staying power.