Do guys really need to chase? or can they also fall in love if the girl makes the first move?

[Sandyneedstoknow]

[Phoenix98]

Honestly as I grow older I genuinely find the chase to be more and more annoying and a waste of time.

I mean if I find a gem of a woman that's actually worth pursing I will because I actually want to make that woman mine.

I'd rather just get straight to the point you like her, she likes you, you both wanna be with each other so just do it and not waste weeks or months engaged in immature bullshit that'll probably end with one person growing frustrated with the other and then y'all never even get together.

That kind of stuff can be avoided if folks would just be straight with each other.

[Anonymous]

No. In fact I seldom chase. This is an inaccuracy women repeat because of all the equality they want, this is one area they DON'T want it.😆

Statistically speaking men find 40 to 60% of women attractive. While women find about 10% of men attractive. So there is still a 50/50 chance the guy rejects you even if you chase. But this is why women repeat this inaccuracy. Because most don't want to chase/slash be the initiators, and when they do they generally can't handle rejection (even though guys face 5 to 10 times the rejection women do).

When you hear guys claim women have dating on "easy" mode this is what they mean. Because women generally do not understand any of this. Just like guys generally don't appreciate that since women don't like to initiate. She has to wait, and sometimes wait and wait for a guy to do the approaching because he simply is not getting any of her hints.

[BarryLiverstone]

I fell in love twice after they made the first move

[BarryLiverstone]

If you like someone, why not make a move?

[Sandyneedstoknow]

I just don't want to scare him off. I've had very confusing experiences with men. They were either extremely assertive/chasing or they backed off immediately when they thought I wasn't giving in enough... so... I don't know how to behave.

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you mean by not giving in enough?

[Sandyneedstoknow]

Sorry, autocorrect. Giving them enough to work with. So, they wanted me to invest more, be the assertive one.

[Sandyneedstoknow]

Would you answer my second question for me? Would mean a lot. You seem like a wholesome guy.

[BarryLiverstone]

The cliche is to just be yourself. But who actually does that in the beginning? I would say you need to be willing to open up a bit because if you play games or act cold why would he wanna explore more about you?

[BarryLiverstone]

Well that’s bad judgment, I’m still a stranger so you can’t know how wholesome I am

[Sandyneedstoknow]

O. k. I take it back. You aren't a wholesome person and I shouldn't ask you to answer the second question I posted.

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you. You can ask if you want to. I was just being honest

[Sandyneedstoknow]

sounds good. I don't play games, either. I don't like them, and I would rather not start anything with a guy that needs games...

[BarryLiverstone]

Right , anyone who needs the games you can tell it’s a red flag. But if you vibe with a guy and can feel like there is something there. You don’t have to wait for him. Playful flirting goes a long way ngl

[Billlewis]

Men are inherently very selfish and inconsiderat, which is why you should always make us work our asses off to receive even the slightest encouragement from you.

[Billlewis]

I just started following you and I'd be honored if you'd like to follow me as well, if that's alright. Thank you very much.

[Sandyneedstoknow]

mmmhh. That seems sad and a little like a game. I am a natural nurturer.. so the opposite.

[Staximus]

Nothing wrong with girls making the first move

[FunkyMonkee]

Either one works fine.

[RedInnocent68]

They most certainly can.

[shortster]

Some guys do; but I prefer not to chase.

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely

[sentinustm]

Nothing is certain.

[Anonymous]

Nothing new