If a man wants to start a family in his 40's what's the oldest woman he should be dating?

[Vegasrunner]

[zeitgeist057]

If you're wanting her to have biological children, the risk for birth defects goes up significantly with mother's over 30. Depending on your risk tolerance/adversity, I would say somewhere around 35, and subtract a year for each child you'd like to have. Unless you have some other plan, like you want children who are 2+ years apart in age. There's obviously several factors at play here, so if you fell in love with a 40 year old woman for example, you'd have to decide what matters most to you.

If you don't care about increased possibility of birth defects, or you are planning to adopt, then I would say pretty much any age woman you are a good fit with, perhaps with a cut off around 60 if you want her to have a higher likelihood of being alive until the kids are 18+ and independent.

[zeitgeist057]

oh wait lol I completely forgot about menopause. So you have to catch her before menopause.

[Drewtate]

20 around

[Jumpintoadstool]

🤢 ew.

[AmandaYVR]

28ish would be sort of middle ground of conception decline but still within reason. ? But the issue is that you need time to really get to know each other, to make sure your relationship is solid, before bringing a child into it. They used to say that at 35 chance of carrying a pregnancy to full-term precipitously drops off. I did some research on this and it's not that straightforward, I guess, but even still, she should probably be in her twenties, still.

[jaskin777]

Nah don't go ny age
A true woman would love u no matter her age and give u a child

[Vegasrunner]

@jaskin777 They can only give u healthy children up to certain age. Once a woman hits 30 its risky, 35 is considered geriatric pregnancy.

[OlderAndWiser]

How many children does he want, and how far apart does he want to have them?

[jahaims]

Eh that's not fair to the kids. If you knocked someone up today you would be 65 with a kid in high-school.

[Vegasrunner]

@jahaims Lol, you're mates a bit off, besides im a man so that doesn't matter.

[zeitgeist057]

@Vegasrunner some people might have been in high school at 25, you don't know everyone's story. ;)

[Vegasrunner]

@zeitgeist057 It's illegal in most states to be enrolled in HS at 20 yro so that's not possible.

[zeitgeist057]

oh snap I didn't know that or think about it but it makes sense at some point you are mixing legal minors/adults in spaces like the locker room and all the sexuality at HS as well.

[zagor]

Maybe the question should be what's the youngest woman who will date him.

[Vegasrunner]

@zagor Na, men are the ones who give out relationships. If you do the work, you should be able to attract a woman of any child bearing age.

[Anonymous]

I would say early 30s at most.

[LiamJHayden]

My mom was almost 45 when I was born.

[Vegasrunner]

@LiamJHayden How many women have you slept w/?