I work with a woman that I really like and I have expressed my interest to her earlier, she said she was seeing someone. She is 19 years younger?

[Joey4576]

Is it wrong, or should I pursue her?

[Oliverlogan263]

My man, I would not suggest pursuing a romantic relationship with this coworker. Here are a few reasons why:

- The age gap of 19 years is significant, especially considering she's still quite young at 19. The life stages and levels of maturity are quite different.

- She has already expressed that she's seeing someone else. Continuing to pursue her would disrespect her relationship and make things awkward/uncomfortable at work.

- Dating a coworker always comes with risks, like potential jealousy issues or things getting messy if the relationship ends badly. It could damage your professional reputation and work relationships.

- Since she's entry-level at 19 while you're established in your career, there may be concerns about an imbalance of power in the relationship if it's not entirely consensual.

- At 19, going for someone much older could suggest issues with setting proper boundaries or liking the power dynamic, on her part.

My advice is to stay professional, keep things friendly at work but don't cross any lines. Focus your energies on finding someone available who is closer to your own stage of life. It may be hard, but it will save you lots of potential drama down the road, bro.

[Joey4576]

She is 28

[Oliverlogan263]

Okay 28 is a bit better man, but still on the older side. Here's what I'd do:

Keep things casual and low pressure at first. Ask her to grab a coffee just as friends sometime to chat more. Gauge her level of interest during that in a relaxed setting.

Keep the conversation light and get to know her better as a person. Find common interests to bond over without coming on too strong romantically yet.

Don't bring up the age thing directly unless she does - let her decide if it's an issue for her or not. Treat her totally normally.

If the meetup goes well and she seems comfortable, you could mention wanting to take her to dinner sometime next to show your genuine interest. Still keep it chill though.

Go slow and give her space if needed. The age gap likely makes her cautious, so earn her trust gradually through consistent respectful behavior.

Hope this gives you a game plan my man. Stay confident but be really considerate of where she's at too. With time and patience it could develop well - good luck!

[RebelinSteel]

Very wrong, she made it clear and by the sound of it, was polite. Just leave her totally alone.

[petitedollbabee]

She’s told you that she’s seeing someone. So common sense would be to not pursue her.

[4ngelic]

she's seeing someone so it would be probably wasting your time