Why would a guy you are newly dating ask about your ex?

[Anonymous]

[RavVid]

He wants to contact for a reference. Standard practice.

I think we want to know want went wrong last time because it could be the harbinger of what might go wrong this time. Maybe he was the A hole. Maybe you were. Maybe you both were.

Aren't you interested in the same way?

[TameBunny]

I agree with Billie (men like to know your sexual boundaries without risk) and would like to add he could be looking for potential 🚩🚩🚩

How you speak about a failed relationship speaks LOUDLY about you as a person. If all the faults were his and you mention nothing about how you learned or improved as a person that's a potential red flag.

Him asking about your ex is not a red flag it's a good sign that he's genuinely interested in getting to you and that he likes you.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, in my case, however, her most recent lovemaking sessions take on a greater degree of importance, because I'm never allowed to have any penetrative sex myself, and must therefore experience my sexual interaction vicariously, through another guty's pleasure.

[KittygosMeoWW]

He's either trying to understand what you will or won’t withstand in a relationship, looking for red flags, or insecure. If a man really cares for you he will work on learning this over time because you should feel safe to confide in good or bad memories. It’s a red flag if he’s asking for it up front and kind of disrespectful.

[Fireguy17]

Find out some insight about your previous relationship.

What type of person you were with what happened, why you broke up, all sorts of pertinent questions to find out if you are the issue , part of the problem, or an innocent bystander.

[hahahmm]

Because he's dumb enough to think you would tell him the truth about everything as opposed to stories that make you feel good about yourself. Smart guy wouldn't ask... but would figure it out indirectly by how you behave. Best case he'd know your friends & they would tell him.

[Lionman95]

Maybe he wants to know what went wrong in your past relationship and wants to avoid acting like your ex or he wants to know how well your relationship still is so he tries to figure out if your ex can become a rival for him.

[SeymourBill420]

All new guys should know about your exes. Especially the Jealous ones. Especially the ones on drugs. Because, you got to know what you might have to prepare for.

[SeymourBill420]

Plus, I like to know about her last few relationships and how they ended. And then I take her side of the story, and then translate it into guy terms. And then I figure out who really was at fault in the situation. And then I make a decision if I want to be with that person because if they haven't learned anything from their previous relationships, then my relationship with her is probably destined to fail for the same reasons. So, I definitely got to look for the warning signs so I know how to deal with them if they come about in our relationship. Because usually women don't really understand fully why their previous relationships ended. So if you don't know fully why your relationships end, you can't make self-improvements to make sure that the same mistakes are not made. And it's always two people to make a relationship not work. So, by asking about their exes you learn a lot about them

[Monalisa77]

What if u don't have any lol

[SeymourBill420]

Well, then you have nothing to tell other than you've never had any exes. So, that doesn't mean really that you don't still have relationship experiencing to do, or that you won't be good at expanding your relationship quality if that makes sense. And not saying somebody that has five exes / husbands maybe they learn something after number one number two number three or number four. But, at least with somebody that has had multiple relationships, it's nice to have that information so you can decipher if this person is actually serious or not or just wants to repeat the same reasons why the relationship broke up because I'm not here for the possibility of a relationship to break up. I'm here to find something to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not talking about on this app. I'm talking about life in general right now.
But, if you've never had a relationship, that doesn't mean you're a bad or good person. Your new guy would just have to figure you out from a clean slate. And then make his own assumptions.

[Jkgordon]

Curious to know why you broke up or Nosey and also look him up.

[Billlewis]

Because we're fascinated with your sexual encounters with the other guys you've dated.

[JacobJordan]

Because women are judged for the future based on their past.

[JacobJordan]

Also asking about a past partner is a great way to determine if she is a good partner. Biggest red flag from women comes from that question. A good woman if asked "why did the relationship end" would say something like "we both made mistakes and drifted apart" but a bad woman would lay the blame solely on the other because she can't take accountability

[exitseven]

He wants to make sure he is not a cop or a kick boxer/

[sheikalana]

He's trying to figure out what type of guys you dated.

[Booklover_90]

He wants to know if you’d go back to him or why the relationship ended.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because he cares about you and he wants to know the shit that you've been through.

[Anonymous]

He wants to see the person you are. You can tell a lot by seeing what kind of people you choose or let into your life.

[Roudyrebel8]

Insecurity on his part

[Aegithalos]

Because all of men almost want virgin.

[Monalisa77]

Doesn't help me lol

[DreamLife7]

He's insecure