Why does men always stand me up, let me down or ghost me?

[Emorgan]

Recently I’ve been trying to find a guy to date but so far it has led to me either being stood up, ghosted or let down …even though all I do is try with them flirt, talk, make them laugh, look good but nothing

[SeymourBill420]

Well, I can't imagine why he would stand you up if you agreed to meet you. Because, if you didn't like your personality or how you looked or something or some things about you. Then he should never have agreed to meet you in the first place and get to that point of meeting and then ghosting or standing up.
But, just based upon your profile picture I can't imagine why somebody would ghost you after making plans with you. I know for a fact I would not make plans like that and not show up for them. I'm used to women doing the exact same thing to me after making a promise to me and then goes me or stand me up. Last July I had five in a row. And then in June I had four. And it might have happened you know a couple more times after that. But not as much and I haven't made any more plans with anybody ever since in order to get ghosted.
But I do not understand the philosophy of ghosting someone. That makes you into a liar and that makes you into a bullshiter. And because I've had that done to me numerous times I would not do it to anyone else. I would just not make plans with you if there was an obvious reason why I wouldn't meet you. But I would not make plans with you and then poof gone.

[Summeroflove]

People who stand someone up and ghost someone are cowards. They did you a favor by removing themselves from your life. They can’t just be honest about how they feel or wanna keep you on the back burner, as a keep in mind if you will.

Finding the right person can take time. But people who are like that just aren’t right. The only time I don’t respond is if I’m busy or they’re being annoying and I ask them nicely to stop but unfortunately I have to start ignoring their messages.

[bobalife]

I’m sorry, I think almost everyone can relate with modern dating’s ghosting… it is hurtful, disappointing, and confusing. I’m sure it can be for multiple reasons that a lot of people are not willingly to be openly communicative and honest about these days than taking the easy way out to walk away or think they have access to come back whenever they want. But it also means you dodged a bullet and may need to focus being more selective on who you will be investing emotionally and timely that appeared to be more sincere and not the same behavioral patterns as the previous. Of course we won’t know until we get to know someone right? It will be your judgement and choices. Dating can be fun, but takes time and selective for the right person that will be what we want and need. I hope this helps~

[devilish-cutie]

Because a lot of people, men too, are actually like that. We hear men are strong, brave... but thats not actually true. Bravery is generally rare, most people are cowards. You just choose wrong men, but its not your fault, you cannot know how someone is until you get to know them and yo can't help be attracted to who you are attracted. But if a man says he isn't looking for anything serious or has any red flegs, believe that and take it as facts, he won't change.

[Finchie40]

Mainly because of the way society is today and social media definitely played a big part of it on damaging most people’s minds that every girl is a cheater or every girl just wants your money blah blah blah , Dating today is sadly not the same as it was when I was younger , before social media apps was even a thing. Most people today have selfish mindsets and think grass is greener on the other side or they have a hard time trusting someone. Most guy’s today are scared of commitment , because they automatically assume a girl is going to break his heart or cheat on him or leave him for someone else , or she just wants him for his money or she has been around the block a bunch of times. For a guy to settle down with a girl he has to feel she only has eyes for him , and feel that she is loyal and honest to him , and make him her top priority , sadly most guys’ have a hard time trusting a girl that makes him feel that way , mainly because of social media and shit he hears from his friends. And sadly Girls’ go through the same shit as well when she talks to her friends or what she reads on social media. The key to a successful relationship these days is making your partner your top priority over everyone else , over your friends over your family etc. Because all of our minds are brainwashed to believe other wise , When I tried entering back into the dating world after my divorce , I was blown away by what I experienced with girls’ the girls’ I had interest in were all selfish girls’ that only cared about themselves , that lied to me that they were single when really they weren’t. That had back up options if things didn’t go their way with me , that would set boundaries with me that I was expected to follow but she didn’t. Relationships today are hard mainly for these reasons. Why I no longer jump into a relationship with a girl until I feel she is really in it for the long haul and not the short haul. I am not saying I am perfect but when it comes to relationships I take them seriously , I can’t give my heart to someone that can’t give me their heart back the same , that can’t wear my shoes the same way they expect me to wear theirs , it has to go both ways or it won’t last. Selfishness is sadly one of the biggest relationship killers , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , don’t expect them to remove it for you. It has to go both ways , you can’t always be right and you can’t always be wrong. If you treat a guy like an option don’t be surprised when he treats you like one as well.

[HawkPerception]

If that's your picture in your display pic, you're a very attractive girl and I don't see why you'd be stood up or ghosted, unless you just had no depth. Having stuff that you're interested in or passionate about. Your views in life. There are many aspects that people tend to evaluate before committing their time to you. However... being stood up is a whole other concept. That shows they're pretty bad with communication and it's their flaw... not yours. You may be attracted to people that have those traits. Those people you're planning dates with could have made plans with other plans someone else during the same time.

[RebelinSteel]

Sorry to hear, it’s bad for both guys and girls trying to get a date and moving on to a relationship. I would look at the types of guy you have been dating, anything similar with them, I hate to say it but perseverance is part of dating, it sucks but it’s looking at the type you are dating and think why each did not follow on with you.

[Emorgan]

I see what you mean …when i do try a guy is all for me one min next gone

[KrakenAttackin]

You are chasing the top 4% of men. These men have so many women throwing themselves at them that they have an abundance mindset. You may be super-hot, but to a Chad, you are average at best.

The problem is you are punching above your weight class.

[TaureanBull81]

Just think 🤔... you've dodged a bullet with each of these dates plus you didn't have to spend any money on them nor waste any time and energy either.

[spartan55]

Time to adjust your standards then. You are picking shitheads. Raise the bar.

[CallmeTheKnight]

We don’t know how many men done this to you Nor what type of men you go for. If it all the men, then you’re the reason why you’re getting stood up

[Sparkie460]

Probably because they have no taste or they are foolish. You're a beautiful woman. They are stupid for not following through

[Roudyrebel8]

I don't know but I've had the same experience with women. Neither one is right

[Anonymous]

A big reason for ghosting is they looked you up and found that you post revealing pictures or you post a lot of hateful things about men.

[Emorgan]

I never do

[Opinion Owner]

Are they ghosting you before or after meeting? If it's after, if you make them wait for sex too long most will lose interest.

[Anonymous]

Because you do not want to choose quality men. But possibly because you expectations are out of whack as well.

[In_Trance]

It's a numbers game
Are you talking to 1 or 2?

Try 20 to 30; somebody will stay engaged

[shortster]

I have the same problem with women. I think most people are terrible at dating these days.

[TruExo7]

that sucks, but cheer up it’s a process you gotta go through idiots to finally get the good guy. It’ll happen just don’t lose hope

[jjj101010]

Maybe u have just made some bad choices in guys recently

[Staximus]

Sounds like you pick the wrong guys

[DextroShade]

You are choosing the wrong men.

[Tomisworthless]

They have better options