Do I need to be dominant as a man that makes me feel weird? I don't like the idea of being 6'2 and having to be dominant can I just be passive?

[Waterproofcandy]

Why must men be dominant if that's the case in my next life I'd like to be a woman that's so awkward having to dominant the relationship can't it be 50/50?

[dynamicyandere]

There are plenty of women who would like a 50/50 relationship.



Online, a lot of men advocate for the traditional model of the man taking the lead and the man taking charge and the man being dominant over his woman.


That works very well for some, but not for everyone.


You have to find what feels right to YOU.


So if a 50/50 approach is what you’re looking for, then find someone who wants the same.


If you legitimately prefer to have your partner take the lead, there are also women who prefer to take the lead and would appreciate a supportive partner that helps in the background.


There’s different strokes for different folks.


You just need to find the right counterpart for YOU.

[ericclayton]

The female dating coaches advocate this power imbalance as well. It's all copy pasted advice, one size fits all easy answer bullshit that has no room for individual differences. Don't listen to the internet, find out the truth in the field.

[Waterproofcandy]

thank you I feel like I need to step away from the toxic manosphere whatever men have made for themselfs this red pill space I think the most healthy thing to take away from that space is to work out

[dynamicyandere]

Oh yeah, 100% the “manosphere” has a very particular way of looking at things with both good ideas and bad ideas as well.

It’s important to be a conscious consumer.

I take all advice I receive with a grain of salt (especially on the internet), because at the end of the day, you need to figure out what works for you and what’s true for you.

The main thing that’s good about the manosphere is it’s focus on self-improvement.

The bad thing about the manosphere is the red pill or black pill portion of the internet (which intersects with the manosphere) that perpetuate misogynistic and generally views on women and how they are.

Advocating for traditional roles isn’t as bad as misogynistic red pill and black pill content.

But, it’s a one-size-fits-all ‘solution’ that doesn’t resonate with everyone.

[dynamicyandere]

generalized views*

[Waterproofcandy]

>Oh yeah, 100% the “manosphere” has a very particular way of looking at things with both good ideas and bad ideas as well.

"It’s important to be a conscious consumer."

remember guys dont be me im a dumbass taking it for what its worth lol and listen to what dynamic says take it with a grain of salt

[dynamicyandere]

Lol, no need to beat yourself up for it.

Better late than never. 🙂

Thanks for the kudos, haha.

[Dr_CEI]

It's a shame you feel that way. Trust me it's OK to be submissive sometimes and it's definitely good to be a switch and play either part depending on the mood and situation. I'm more submissive and love it but I'm also OK to take the lead

[jennifer_bloom]

Not all woman like dominant men. I’ve met guys who think they are alpha that I would trade for a gorilla at the zoo cause they lack humility and a strong sense of duty. Dignity and integrity and hard work attracts more women than animal mechanics at the night club. You can’t marry a flamingo if you’re an ape and you can’t get a good woman by acting like a hedge hog.

[Waterproofcandy]

Ty Im like just me Im in class for nursing but its a lot of women but im just me.. like again I dont act dominant I dont act passive i know when to act and when to act passive/quiet but i just hope the women expect me to be forth coming and lead and stuff because its quite hard and i am only human lol

[Waterproofcandy]

stupid red pill videos are toxic i have to admit I've been watching them and they kinda messed up my reality of dating as I dont have much expierence at all to begin with but I do have a good personality tho humble etc ( i would like to think that is why i took nursing lol)

[jennifer_bloom]

Woman are emotional creatures and like emotional support and regular attention and consideration. A dominant guy that is not caring and attentive will not win her loyalty and might not even distant respect from her.

[Agape93]

Be a sub, a Dom or a switch. Doesn't matter, both will cum in the end

[slatyb]

No, you don't have to be dominant, whatever that means to you. Your relationship can be whatever works for you and your partner.

[Nikki1989]

No, don't be so predictable and old-fashioned.

[Iron_Man]

Good gracious why do you want to think that way

[Waterproofcandy]

because men need to dominant dont they? lead relationships? I kinda dont wanna do that im okay with whatever

[Iron_Man]

Most women like to be in charge anyway and control people

[Waterproofcandy]

but as long as Im not a push over or something?

[sheenagwapa]

men who wanted to be dominant are insecure shit