Am I too dominant?

[Anonymous]

I like to be assertive and to give directions and I'm really good at being the boss of things. though I do have a tender side that I don't show unless someone is really close to me. i also wouldn't like to be completely submissive but also not completely dominant in a relationship. I think very logically and not emotionally, most decisions I make are logic based and I can't lead by emotion at all. Though I can display emotion I consider vulnerability a weakness and rarely show it unless to people in comfortable with. some people told me I'm too masculine and harsh , but it's just the way that I am. Also saying that because I like math that also makes me really weird,
It doesn't help really also looking kinda masculine, that everyone thinks I'm too dominant and dude-like. what do you think from all of what I wrote? Is my personality too dominant?

[Anonymous]

The issue I have in dealing with more dominant personalities is that they're often stubborn and arrogant. They're unlikely to consider that the directions somebody else gives is better than theirs. Sometimes you have to know when to submit rather than constantly argue, especially in relationships. A girl describing herself as you are would get along much better with a submissive person or somebody more laid back who doesn't really care either way, as they probably won't challenge your ideas or your wanting to be the boss. You would be too dominant for another person who also thinks they're dominant, and there'd probably be a lot of arguing if one of you isn't willing to submit.

[Asker]

I'm definitely stubborn though I'm not sure if I'm arrogant but I try to be as considerate of what others say as I can be but if I know something works for me I won't let it go.
I don't like submissive guys though, so what am I supposed to do? I'm just not attracted to them...

[Opinion Owner]

Learn to submit then because most dominant guys are probably a lot more stubborn than you are. If you like to be the boss of things and give directions then you're going to need a submissive guy who will allow you to be the boss and who will follow your direction. Otherwise you're dating a guy who submissive and who will constantly challenge you and expect you to listen to his direction instead. If he instead listens to you, this will be a turn off to you, as you stated. So you're going to have to compromise somewhere.

[Opinion Owner]

Otherwise you're dating a guy who is dominant* not submissive.

[daanderson911]

Nope. You're exactly how you are supposed to be, and if you water yourself down for anyone, you're being fake. And that's dumb

[Cuddlekisser]

Your question "is my personality too dominant" is invalid. It sounds like "are my socks too yellow?"

You are what you are and you have to accept that. Personalities are like colors and every color is important to exist.

I suppose you are unsure about dating and finding love?

Dom and Sub can be divided to different aspects of life. I am quite dominant in life and I tell people what I expect, but I also love to submit to a strong female. I love the idea to have a female who presses me against a wall and kisses me.

Bascially dom and sub isn't a black & white thing.

[MrKey]

For most guys, anything other than submission is less attractive, but I like a mix.

[Asker]

A mix how?

[MrKey]

I like to relinquish control somewhere between often and occasionally, especially in bed. I'll do anything if asked the right way. I'm very atypical though. Id be embarrassed to say such things around other guys, maybe even a girl at first, because girls like dominance and guys are supposed to be wired that way. I'm weird and not like that. I fear people like me and you, being atypical as well, may get left out in the dark due to societal standards.

[Cammy137]

Be yourself. You'll find someone who is compatible with it.

[boggboss]

As dominate as it needs to be I guess

[Asker]

I dont understand?

[boggboss]

That you are you there is no point asking us if there is a problem with how you act as you opinion is the only one that should matter