Girls, what makes you feel 'loved' the most with men whether dating, in a relationship, or casual?

[Anonymous]

(With men, whether dating, relationship or casual)

[KittygosMeoWW]

I just answered a similar question lol. I used to only associate my value in the relationship with sex and feeling desired, meaning if I wasn’t doing it 7x a day at least I felt like something was wrong with me and he didn’t love me. It was so unhealthy and put a lot of pressure on just fucking for the sake of it.

I haven’t dated in a while and I’ve been working on changing my outlook on sex/my value without it. I think in my next relationship the best way a man could show me he loved me is following through on promises and initiating a lot of plans.

[Asker]

Oh 100%, fulfilling promises and doing as he says. Actions speak way louder than words

[celeste01]

My best male friendships have always stemmed from their patience and gentleness when interacting with me. Things like pulling me closer when I cross the road without looking both ways (silly, I know), or making me walk on the inside of the pavement for 'protection'. Or when one of my male friends bought me a trinket because he knew I would like it.

All of these things signify to me that the other person was thinking about me, either for my safety or entertainment which moves my heart and warms me up.

[Asker]

Love it

[KrakenAttackin]

@celeste01. Male "friendships" or men you are dating?

[Anonymous]

My sister says cuddling makes her feel loved the most.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

He spends tim with me

Cares about me, like simple stuff making me a tea or giving me cloth if im cold

Making time for us instead of his friends, sharing personal stuff with me, being vulnerable with me, listening to my non stop talking being respectful with me and my interests🥰

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

I test him by talkimg non stop about cosmetic products and hair products and he listens, never said :oh this girls crap im not interested. instead he sends me some new cream he saw in a magazine or if i mention a new parfume he says we can go and check if they have it to get irlt for you

[Asker]

Love it, that's a very dmart test! If he listen and takes it all in it shows he really cares

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

Do you think men settle for their dream girl?
Can we say every girl men date is his drram girl?

[Asker]

Definitely every, every girl I've seen I've made to feel very special

Although not all guys would have the same outlook

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

I say it because i rejected and ignored my boyfriend for 2 years
And he finally got me
Can i be considered his dream girl?

[Asker]

If he's waited that long, yes he's very committed

[KrakenAttackin]

@ItsMykolaJenkins. He is a fool.

[ItsMykolaJenkins]

@KrakenAttackin ok lol

[petitedollbabee]

In terms of love languages, physical touch makes me feel the most loved, non-sexual intimacy. Cuddles, stroking my hair, caressing my forearms, caressing my back, rubbing my feet.

[Asker]

Would you mind if that guy was seeing multiple other women at the same if you were not exclusively in a relationship with him? But in terms of loyalty you would come first and responded with all above you've mentioned?

[petitedollbabee]

Yes, I would mind. I would not feel any love from those actions if we weren’t exclusive and in a relationship together. I wouldn’t be involved with him if that were the case.

[Asker]

Completely justified

[devilish-cutie]

When a guy is caring towards me, thoughtful, understanding, gives me attention, makes me priority

But usually its true that love language theory, for me it would be: quality time, physical touch, words of afirmation

[Tharithi]

Loyal devoted attentive guys who protect chase provide

[Asker]

Would you mind if that guy was seeing multiple other women at the same if you were not exclusively in a relationship with him? But in terms of loyalty you would come first?

Or is that a complete no

[JHAYES317]

So you want a simp lol?

[Tharithi]

@JHAYES317 something is wrong with u

[JHAYES317]

If you want a guy who chases and provides for you, that’s a simp. A relationship is supposed to be 50/50…not the guy paying for everything, unless you wanna be a housewife but that doesn’t seem to be the case?

[Asker]

@JHAYES317 'Chase' can come in all forms, to maintain a relationship you've got to court your girl and take her our treat her well and lead and this includes providing and making her feel understood and heard define as being 'attentive'. I'm assuming this is what she's referring to, If he suggests something a place to go, he should be paying and organising it which will be almost always if he's leading lol

[JHAYES317]

Lol that sounds like a one way relationship…you shouldn’t be giving her more than she’s giving you, even if you are giving more monetarily, she’s gotta even the score somehow.

[Asker]

@JHAYES317 Oh of course, reciprocation is absolutey key in that regards

[JHAYES317]

So if you are paying for everything for her, how could she possibly reciprocate? Her just agreeing to have sex with you is just something that’s expected in a relationship, that’s not a reward…

[Asker]

@JHAYES317 Unconditional love, caring, she does things for you, she confides in you, she gets you gifts, she will do almost anyhting for you, a future wife for your kids etc etc. The main thing is being a man

[JHAYES317]

Ok but you also doing all that, PLUS, you are paying for everything, so it really seems like you are still putting much more into the relationship than she is.

[Asker]

@JHAYES317 Not everything but most things it's just a simple meal once a weak or a cinema ticket, absolutely nothing, it's important to not be stingey, if you get into a relaitonship that's the investment you've got to make really, resrouceful and reliable

[JHAYES317]

Lol it’s not about being stingey, but if you both have jobs, it absolutely does not make sense for you to be paying for significantly more things than her, unless you have significantly more income. The only situation where it makes sense for the man to provide everything financially is if the woman is a housewife and they have kids where the woman cooks, cleans, and largely raises the kids.

[Asker]

@JHAYES317 It's literally nothing, if you're got a full time job at the start of dating/seeing eachother the courtship is important and eventually as the relantionship strengthens 50/50, cars etc are 50/50 or whatever. The main thing with'providing' entails trust anf uncodntionally love and reliability to become a father and supportive partner

[JHAYES317]

Lol love is rarely, if ever, unconditional, if it was why do 50% of marriages end in divorce? And also you can love someone without paying for everything…And again, the whole courting thing only applied to the days where women weren’t allowed to work…nowadays, if a woman has a job, I will absolutely not fund her lifestyle…Paying for the first couple dates? Sure. Beyond that, it’s gotta be 50/50. Otherwise you lose all leverage in the relationship and just become their cash cow.

[Asker]

@JHAYES317 Sure. In my experience you get past the few dates and pay, if she offers and pays thats great and treat her wel emotionally and in the bedroom that 50/50 goes out the door and you're both soul mates after a few months and years, of course all going well

[Tharithi]

@JHAYES317 Gro balls and leave the chat

[JHAYES317]

“Gro” a brain and learn to spell

[KrakenAttackin]

@squatting_slav. They will say "no", but the answer is yes. Women will grudgingly share a Chad rather than have an average guy all to themselves.

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin So be a Chad then

[KrakenAttackin]

@squatting_slav. I have been a simp and I have been a Chad. Right now I am a loner who is happy to live on my own terms.

[Asker]

@KrakenAttackin That's good man, gotta do what's best for you

[KrakenAttackin]

@Tharithi. "Chase"?

[Tharithi]

@KrakenAttackin wuss?

[KrakenAttackin]

@squatting_slav. It took me decades to realize the most stressful and chaotic times in my life always involved women.

[jaskin777]

Cuddle.
Him being there with me.
Making love
Us just hold hands
Etc

[Asker]

Lovie it. His presence in general

What's your favourite 'masculine' trait?

[Nikki1989]

I can feel my husband's love just by the way he looks at me. Everything else is just icing on the cake.

[IslaTheWitch]

probably his attention :) when he notices small things, cares about things I like or don't like...

[rosacikk]

I love jealousy, owning me, treating me like a princess with a bit make me feel his property

[Asker]

Nice

[DizzyDesii]

Deep meaningful conversations about looking forward to our future together

[laly520]

when his actions reflects love

[jjjjjooooojjjjooo]

Respect, love is respect