Would a girl ever date/marry a guy like me?

[MusicTokuXX]

I have autism, I have medical issues and disabilities and I currently live on benefits while living with my dad. I can’t work because of it. I’m worried i won’t ever be able to find a girlfriend/partner because of it and i’ll be alone forever! I need some advice/What do you think? Would a girl ever date me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Don't sweat it man, having autism or other issues doesn't automatically mean you can't find someone. Tons of people have all kinds of stuff going on and still find love.

A few thoughts:

- Focus on your good qualities - What makes you YOU? Your sense of humor, passions, how you treat people etc. That stuff matters more.

- Put yourself out there - Even if it's just coffee dates, start slowly meeting new people any way you can. Be honest about who you are upfront.

- Confidence is key - Believe that someone will see YOU for you and appreciate you. Don't sell yourself short. Easier said than done I know!

- Online dating could help - If you're shy in real life, apps let you connect without pressure at first. Be upfront in your profile.

- Help from friends/family may lead to more circles - Meet their friends who know your good side already.

- Don't let autism define you - You got so much more than that going on I'm sure. Show your whole self.

Point is, there are definitely girls who could like you for who you are bro. Don't worry - just focus on putting your best self out there. You got this!

[Zestyassmf1997]

It depends on how you look, how much charisma you have, how much money, how much status.

[MusicTokuXX]

@Zestyassmf1997 so basically you’re saying i’m destined to be alone forever, thanks a lot

[Zestyassmf1997]

Well you didn’t answer any of what I inquired about.

[MusicTokuXX]

@Zestyasf1997 I have none of that, I’m just a normal guy who has autism, disabilities who’s living on benefits. I’m decent looking albeit shorter than most guys, but that’s about it

[MusicTokuXX]

@Zestyassmf1997

[Zestyassmf1997]

Benefits are badass, and autism is a type of character.

[bobalife]

It’s not very spoken openly among others, but there’s more neurodivergent than people realize and it’s nothing to be anshame/dislike about. I know a few at work and outside work, they were able to be in relationships or found people to date. Just as anyone, if there’s someone who is able to like you for you and you like her for her, it will work out :) it’s easy to focus on things we are worried about, but I hope you can also take time to think about some of your strengths. Maybe you can take some time to write it out on a paper and reflect on the positivities about yourself and it makes you just as valuable just as anyone who’s worthy of love/dating/relationships. Hope this helps a bit.

[bobalife]

You can also looked into department of rehabilitation if you’re in the u. s. and if your state has it if you’re interested in working while still being on SSI. It’s their speciality to help those with mental health and developmental delay with keeping both their benefits and a job :)

[Anonymous]

Of course you can find someone 😊. I’m Autistic, unable to work because of depression and anxiety. I’m also a recovered alcoholic, a schizophrenic and I am currently being treated for dependent personality disorder. I have several friends and I have had a few men propose, knowing this and I have a boyfriend. I live at home.

[LazerBean]

I wouldn't, but I've known couples where they both have autism.

[MusicTokuXX]

@LazerBean that would be a doomed relationship. I don’t want to date a autistic girl because I’m still pretty normal compared to most autistic people. And it would be so hard because we couldn’t take care of each other.

[LazerBean]

The ones I know of take care of eachother and live near family. You don't really expect a normal person to date you when you wouldn't even date someone like yourself, do you?

[MusicTokuXX]

@LazerBean I can’t take care of anyone, my family has to take care of me. And most autistic people are worse off than me. Their condition i mean. Their cognitive abilities. etc
It’s not that i won’t, it’s that we wouldn’t survive

[LazerBean]

Okay

[Staximus]

I think you can work just fine. You're operating a phone or computer and writing this bullshit, aren't you?

[MusicTokuXX]

@Staximus I have autism and disability! You have no idea how hard my life is! I couldn’t even pass school because of my learning disability! Don’t talk about things you don’t understand

[Staximus]

You seen to be able to read, write, and operate a computer just fine. There's still a lot of people in 3rd world countries that haven't learned to do that. I think you're a fraud con artist pretending to not be able to work, or just making excuses and enjoying a free ride because you've been coddled too long and told that you can't do anything. I think you can do plenty, now go out and get a job you bum.

[MusicTokuXX]

@Staximus I live on benefits, I have autism and medical condition! Stop hating on me when you have no idea! You sound like such a rude shit person! I couldn’t even pass school because of my learning disability! Don’t talk like you know anything about my life! My therapist diagnosed me with autism when i was 8 or 11

[Staximus]

Stop living in denial, you obviously have enough brains to operate a computer so you can get a job. You're not as autistic as you think, is just an excuse.

[MusicTokuXX]

@Staximus I have a learning disability, I couldn’t even pass school because of it and i have medical conditions! I literally live on benefits. Stop judging what you can’t understand! Why are you hating on me so much?

[Staximus]

Because your excuses are bullshit or you're a con artist

[MusicTokuXX]

@Staximus You sound like a troll! You don’t know anything about me! You wanna see my psychiatrist papers? You’re such an ass!!

[Staximus]

You've either got everybody fooled, or somebody has you fooled into believing you can't do anything

[MusicTokuXX]

@Staximus I can’t, I have autism and learning disabilities so I couldn’t pass school! I am weak physically because of medical conditions i was born with! You have no idea what my life is like! Stop being an asshole! You have no sympathy! What’s wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Well, it's not impossible but slim girls wants a guy who's financially stable. Your ssi check isn't what I call financially stable.

[MusicTokuXX]

Well it’s not like i can help it! I was born with all this, I have autism and learning disabilities so I couldn’t pass school! I am weak physically because of medical conditions i was born with! I can’t help the condition i’m in. And I don't know what to do!

[Opinion Owner]

There are mine jobs that you need little to no schooling. you honestly sound like a high functioning autistic person

[MusicTokuXX]

Mine jobs?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, my spelling isn't always the best. I was basically saying there's lots of jobs out there that doesn't require you to have a high school degree.

[MusicTokuXX]

I have learning disabilities and I have medical conditions that limit physical ability. So basically both my physical and intellectual abilities are weaker because of my medical conditions. And i live on benefits. If i go over a specific amount I won't be able to keep it