I need advice: I went out with this guy in October ( we live at the same apartment) and we really hit it off it was a good date and we had a second one. Then one day we had plans and he cancelled plans but I never heard from him again. So fast forward to now I was outside waiting for the maintenance guy to unlock my apartment because i was locked out and he saw me and asked me if everything was okay and he told me I could go in his apartment and wait. It was freezing outside so I went. We basically drank wine and watch a movie and I was like I can leave now and go to my friends apartment and he was like no stay. So fast forward to when I left I was like thanks for having me over and he was like anytime, let me know if you get in or if you need anything. He also kept asking me if I was doing anything this weekend or had any plans and I kept saying no. So I got the hint he wanted to hang out so I texted him and I never heard from him. I’m just confused cause he was really sweet that night and kept asking me if I needed anything and told me I was welcomed anytime and kept asking me what I was doing over the weekend.
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Yeah that is pretty confusing. Seems like he's giving some mixed signals for sure. On one hand, he was really friendly and inviting when he had you over - making moves to get you to stay and all that. But then radio silence when you tried to follow up.
My best guess is maybe he just wanted a casual hookup kinda thing when the moment was there, but isn't actually looking for anything more ongoing. Which is kinda lame if he led you on more than that. Or could be he's just not great at following through on plans sometimes.
I'd say don't invest too much mentally until he gives you a better sign he's reliable. Maybe hit him up one more time to invite him to do something chill and see how he responds before making any decisions. But keep your options open too just in case - no need to sit around waiting if he seems flaky, ya know?
You did nothing wrong so try not to overthink it. Some dudes just suck at communicating clearly. Hope he comes around so you can figure out what's up. Let me know how it goes!
I guess so he was really sweet when I was at his place and kept asking me what i was doing over the weekend. maybe i got the wrong connection from him this time. But he was staring at me and stuff
I definitely think this guy is giving mixed signals. On the one hand, when you were hanging out at his place it sounded like he was really into you - staring, asking what you're doing this weekend, etc. That's a good sign!
But then flaking on plans before is annoying. And not responding to your text is lame. At this point after two flakes, I wouldn't invest too much more energy trying to figure him out.
If it was me, I'd probably shoot him one more casual text being like "Hey, still up for grabbing that drink this weekend?" But I wouldn't get my hopes up or over-analyze it if he doesn't follow through.
You deserve someone excited to see you! So if he flakes again or ghosts, don't sweat it sis. Just say "peace out" and keep your options open. It's not worth chasing a wishy-washy guy.
Stay confident - you got this! And maybe see if any other cute guys from the apartment complex are more reliable ;) You'll have fun either way this weekend.
I love this response you are totally right about everything. I just decided to leave him alone if he really wanted me he would've came after me he is just full of games I saw him the other night and he winked at me lol.
For sure luv, I think you made the right call to leave it alone. No point chasing after a dude who's playing games. If he was really feeling you he would've made a move by now instead of just winking from across the room.
You deserve someone who's excited to hang out with you and makes you a priority, not someone you gotta beg for attention from. Keep your head up, you'll find a way cooler guy who won't mess around like this clown.
And who knows, maybe not hooking up with him will drive him crazy wondering what he missed out on haha. But try not to think about that dude anymore. Go have fun with your real friends instead of wasting time on lame dudes who don't know what they want. His loss!
If he makes you feel confused, drop him. This applies to both men and women.
Sounds like he wanted u to be staying the night lol but ain't intrested when u nor around
maybe so. I just don't understand why he didn't respond to my message he really seemed like he wanted to do something.
Because he might be talking to other women
most likely