Should I trust the process?

[Anonymous]

So I’m talking to an amazing woman. And I think her personality is the best of all time. Like I’m in love with her personality. And I honestly think she’s in love with me now. But the problem is that she’s too much of a tomboy. Like you would think she would be a lesbian. But no. And I want to fall in love with her so badly. But I keep wondering about other women who pay attention to me. Like at the gym, I was working out, and this girl was staring at me more than she should’ve. And she was so hot too. But I hate that. I want to like my girl instead. So at this point, I’m telling myself that I haven’t even seen her at her best yet (like I just always see her in her casual stuff). Because some women look totally different without effort. But I know some women look even better as time goes on (ex:milfs). And I can pay her to get her nails done, makeup, and hair right?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye bro I feel you, finding the right chick is def a struggle. But from what you said it seems like you really connect with this girl's personality already. personality over looks any day in my book.

My advice - focus on who she is, not what other girls look like. So what if she's more low key, seems like she's real and that's what matters. Plus people's looks change but who they are inside stays the same, feel me?

As for paying for her to change up - nah man, don't do that. She's gotta like herself for who she naturally is too. Why don't you try getting to know her better how she is now before judging? Take her out, make her laugh, show you care about her mind.

I think if you give it time you'll appreciate her whole package even more. And who's to say you can't encourage her to try new styles too in a fun supportive way? Just don't expect her to change into someone she's not.

At the end of the day you gotta feel what's real in your heart my guy. This chick sounds cool already - trust the process and see where it goes! don't psych yourself out wondering about what could've been with other girls. You do you bro, it'll work out.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

The make-up still often comes off in the bedroom. With hair, is she sporting one of those butch cuts or something? And I think you're the first guy I ever encountered who cares about nails -- nothing necessarily wrong with that but I was under the false assumption that no guy cares about women's nails.

But I mean is she physically attractive to you or not at all? Since I would think she'd already have to be kind of hot if you think make-up and nails and hair can improve much.

Maybe you can negotiate with her what sort of fashion you think looks best on her? I mean it's not like you have to marry her if you go on some dates with her, see how things work out. That seems at least worth exploring for a while than going after some random hottie who just stared at you in the gym.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I just want to direct anyone reading my answer to @Lliam's genius one.

[StarWarGirl]

You can ask her not directly but like through hints or casually that can she wear like feminine kind or what she thinks about dressing that way will there be any moment she could think about changing her style? Etc. Try to find out what she thinks about it and how firm she is on her dressing style. As it's not so firm always it keeps changing with time and age and circumstances for people. And after that you can decide how far it is acceptable or important for you. Can you accept it forever sacrificing other options for being committed to only to this person? You yourself decide.

[devilish-cutie]

you can't get everything in life but you shouldn't accept what you can't or expect someone will change or you will change them. If he being tomboy is unacceptable than i guess it won't work out, but the gym girl is hardly competition as you dont know that woman expect the fact she is hot, she might as well have a terrible personality or even be taken... so dont throw away what you may have cause of that temptation. It honestly sounds to me that you dont really like this tomboy girl and you should rethink that

[Lliam]

Tell her that you think she is beautiful and ask her out someplace really nice. Express an interest in seeing her dressed up. You could even offer to pay for a makeover with hair, nails, makeup and even an outfit, like she's going to a prom, wedding, or fancy dinner party. Maybe she's never done that before.

If she's in love with you, maybe she will be happy to show you how pretty she can be. It might be a thrill for her.

If she does get dressed up for the date, tell her that she looks gorgeous and that you really like her that way.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Very tactful! Excellent strategy!

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, don’t assume you can change things about her that you don’t like. Like her being a masculine woman. I had a friend like the woman you’ve described. She was going to insist on wearing what she wanted to my wedding, if I ever married. No dresses, it had to be black trousers. Closed in shoes. She softened up from being around our group, but remained a masculine woman. If you can’t accept her as she is, then you’re not going to last with her. She won’t change.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Tell her you're a Lesbian trapped inside of a man's body and your penis is just a giant clit. Then ask her if she's ever thought about sucking on some clit.

You can always just say you were joking.

[bobalife]

Trust the process 😌 but it’s also important to like someone for the way they are physically instead of how you want them to be… but I think it’s harmless to throw in cute fits/date ideas she’d look good in. Just don’t make it forceful😅

[slatyb]

Have you taken her on a date where she might get dressed up? If you think "she's too much of a tomboy" then maybe you aren't really in love with her. And is she really "your girl" ? It sounds like so far it's all talk.

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't quite understand what you mean when you say "trust the process." What does trusting the process look like in this situation for you?

[Staximus]

Don't try to change her, just accept her. You want to see her dressed up, invite her out somewhere fancy and tell her she has to dress nice or they won't let you in

[laly520]

give it time n see where it goes

[Tharithi]

Describe her looks and how she dresses