Guys, For our next date he just said we can go for drinks. I'm worried this could turn into a casual relationship?

[Lalalove11]

Because we slept together twice and barely know eachother. We agreed we want to get to know eachother more. However I don't know if drinking is the best way. Problem is he happens to be travelling this weekend and I'm very busy for the next two weeks so we agreed to meet next Friday. I guess I can still meet him for drinks but not go back to his place

[Anonymous]

It seems it’s already casual. You’re just sleeping together. If you want something real maybe it’s time to break it off. Before it’s even more toxic down the road. Your choice

[Lalalove11]

It seems to be headed that way. Really hard to tell as he has day trips planned but I wonder if he's manipulating , or if he's realised he doesn't want anything serious. He said it's too soon to tell what he thinks of me.

[Avicenna]

Clear up any ambiguities. Tell him what you want.

[Lalalove11]

I've told him I'm looking for something long term not just casual

[Avicenna]

What did he say and what do his actions indicate?

[Lalalove11]

His exact words he's open to anything. Meeting new friends or finding a partner in crime. It may be too early to tell just yet. Good thing is he's been planning future dates but I'm just starting to get a more casual vibe from him

[Avicenna]

Go on the dates with him and see what happens. Be willing to make a move if you sense the moment is right.

[incorrected]

If it started casual then his intentions were casual, unless you were the one who pushed it toward sex? I mean, you can talk to him about it and see where it goes from there, but my guess is that he travels a lot?

[Lalalove11]

He wants to travel this year. The sex just happened. It feels very ambiguous at the moment. I was a bit disappointed he suggested drinks for the next date.

[incorrected]

What would you have preferred for the next date and why?

[Lalalove11]

Mm perhaps something day time to get to know him.

[msc545]

Go for dinner instead.

[Lalalove11]

It'll be too late as finishing work late. Might need to pick another day