Did I come off as too eager with a man I recently met?

[Anonymous]

I met a man on a dating site while he was visiting his family in another state. A month passed and as soon as he came back he reaches out and we scheduled a date to meet. The date went very well and lasted about four hours. After the date he texted me and said goodnight and that he had a good time. A couple of days later which brings it to Saturday I said I had a great time and wanted to see each other when we were both free. So he asked what my schedule was like and we decided on next weekend a Saturday night, but he did not clarify the place we'd meet or a specific time. One day passes and he says are you free during the week? And I said why does Saturday not work or did you want to meet twice? He said no Saturday is fine I was curious if you were only available once a week and he said he is willing to work around my schedule and whenever I'm free he’ll make it work. Looking back I know I shouldn't have but I had an unexpected day off work on Tuesday and asked him the day before if he wanted to meet up that day. he has not texted back at all since then I asked and it is now Wednesday and our date is supposed to be Saturday. Did I come off as too eager to see him? And should I assume he’s now uninterested?

[Oliverlogan263]

Don't be so hard on yourself, girl! It's easy to get swept up in the excitement when you really click with someone. A few things that may help here:

First, try not to read too much into him not responding yet - guys can be flakey sometimes with their phones. Give it another day or so before making any assumptions.

That said, asking to hang out two days in a row may have come on a little strong, even if your schedule allowed for it. Guys like to feel they have space and freedom too.

I'd say stick to the original Saturday plan for now unless he cancels. In the meantime, distract yourself with friends or other activities so you're not obsessively checking for texts.

If he does bail on Saturday with no alternative suggestion, then you'll know he's lost interest and you can move on. But there's still a chance this guy is genuinely busy and the date is still on.

Try to play it a little cooler from now - let him pursue you occasionally too. Remember your worth isn't defined by any one person's actions. You've got so much to offer - stay confident in yourself! Keep me posted on what happens, and we'll go from there. Fingers crossed for you!

[Asker]

He didn't end up texting back, which is fine I spent the day with my family :) I guess it wasn't meant to be, there could be a million different reasons for his pulling away.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man that's kinda disappointing he didn't end up texting you back. But you're right, there could definitely be all sorts of reasons that had nothing to do with you. At least you got to have a nice day with your family instead! And who knows, maybe down the road you'll cross paths with him again or meet an even cooler guy. Try not to let it get you down - online dating can be weird like that sometimes. His loss anyway! You sound like a catch, so his missing out. Just keep putting yourself out there and having fun meeting new people. I'm sure the right person who appreciates you will come along soon enough!

[Anonymous]

Probably not, considering anyone using a dating app is probably desperate AF.