Newly single after a 9.5 year relationship. I Just met a guy a few days ago from an app, hit it off immediately. First meet up we spent 3 hours talking and 45 minutes making out. Told him I was moving in a month and wanted friends with benefits till I go. He was all for it. Next day he was texting me all throughout the day. Met up the next day again and talked for 2 hours and ended up having sex, even cuddled a bit after. Here’s where I might have went wrong, I asked him if at anytime he wasn’t interested in me anymore to let me know. I didn’t want to waste my time or his. I also don’t like being ghosted, a simple “I’m not interested anymore” is good for me. He said okay he would. I was kind of dawdling leaving because we were having a good time. He even texted a bit that night. Next day barely any communication. I know he’s got a busy job but it makes me worried. I asked to hang out again that night and he said he needed a rain check because he wouldn’t be home until late from work. Fair enough, but I haven’t heard from him since (a few hours). He almost always replies. We have made tentative plans for this weekend but I’m worried he won’t reach out at all. I’m aware this could just be my insecurities but I’m just curious what you think? Am I freaking out over nothing?
It sounds like he’s honoring the whole friends with benefits notion, and not engaging as much because you aren’t trying to “date” and just hook up. I would say to be honest with yourself though and act within your comfort level. Like do you feel the need for more communication as not to feel “used” per se, or do you want things to be very casual, not building much of a relationship at all? Knowing what you want will help navigate going forward.
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