Why am I still single?

[Anonymous]

I'm 25 years old and still single, I've never had a boyfriend in my whole life, I'm not even that ugly, I'm 130 lbs, 5'7 I have long beautifull brown hair, brown eyes, and round face and people always assume I look younger than my age (I think its because I have a baby face) and I think that's the reason why I'm single becuz men from my age and who are older than me never tried to approach me and its only the younger guys who are 16-19 years old who try to date me becuz they assume I'm 18, I only dated once in my life, and this guy was the same age as me but it didn't last for so long (only two month and we stopped dating), I always try to put myself out there for men to approach me like I go to coffe, museem, cinema but no one approach me or try to talk to me, some people advice me to go clubbing or try dating apps but I'm not that type of girl who like to party and I feel guys on dating apps only want to sleep with me and they don't look for a serious commitment, I don't know what to do.. should I give the younger guys a chance?

[bobalife]

Hmm maybe change your narrative and mindset lol. I understand it can feel abit tiring and hopeless with dating these days though. Continue doing what you feel comfortable to meet new people, but I think you gotta step outside your comfort zone too. You go out to explore and enjoy being with good company and yourself, right? Let things naturally happen when you do, be more open/approachable when someone catches your eyes/attention, and converse with them. I would have single girl friends sayin the same to me that there’s barely any good looking guys or no one is approaching them/asking them out, but I’m like there’s actually a lot of good looking and great quality people… people are mostly timid these days… (though not all may or may not be looking for a relationship) it’s like are you manifesting so much that it overwhelmed you or are you actually being open to the idea and letting it happen on its own? Hence, be gentle with yourself and with openness will gravitate more opportunities when you don’t really expect it. Some guys may need abit nudge & signs that you’re interested to make a move lol. Hopefully it makes sense and uplifts you :)

[kylee2437]

Do not give younger boys a shot. You need to be a grown person and actually put yourself out there. Stop waiting for men to magically approach you. That era is dead and men are afraid of being called harassers for approaching. Involve yourself in more activities that allows you to meet different people

[lightbulb27]

I had same problems at that time and I gave up for a while. as I matured and more so... healed my inner self over long period of time, I progressed.

go to places where better chance finding quality people.. always have eyes aware, take some reasonable risks. learn to mingle and talk to others, learn to socialize.

I used to joke how no women were showing up at my door. I once thought about randomly going around and knocking on womens door to ask them out... because I had nothing. nobody does that. you have to get out and meet people. not easy, but you find them everywhere you are looking.

It's not easy in our culture...

[Drew-1990]

Well you said you're attractive, guys are probably scared to ask you out. And don't feel so bad, I'm 33 and never been in relationship so you're still better off than me. I've asked myself the same question countless times, as much as it hurts, it ain't worth dwelling on. Dating apps do suck but not all guys just want to sleep with you. I'm on dating apps and that's not my intention at all. Try asking guys out. Most guys nowadays will not be offended if you make the first move that includes guys like me who are traditional in most things, I would be ecstatic if a girl asked me out.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you need to stop waiting for guys and approach them. If you are pretty/decent looking then most guys will likely assume you are taken and not bother.

If you take the approach that you are just out to make some friends then there is no pressure and your just getting to know some people.

[Alex-Snow]

It would be better to stick with guys around ur age. Younger ones may be fun but all most of them would want is sex and a lot of it. The right guy will enter ur life when you least expect it. Hang in there. Keep in mind that it is ok for you to ask a guy on a date or to hang out.

[Squatting_Slav]

It's not you, guys this generation are more timid and stick to dating apps, the top % of men approach and they're normally always taken with options. The best place is within hobbies, events etc where you develop connections through friends and their friends

[Lynx122]

It takes time if you wanna find a good person and not just have someone so you're not alone. I don't know you so I can't give you any specific tips but being patient is not a bad thing.

[JHAYES317]

I’m still single too…in my case it’s my height that makes me unattractive. Maybe you have some unrealistic standards like wanting 6 ft guys or a big dick I don't know? If not, then maybe you should try working on your fashion sense, dressing older

[Berethor]

If you stop being Anonymous then maybe you would find someone here, who knows. :)

[laly520]

its ok

some things take time to happen

[Jamie05rhs]

Just pick the guy that you're interested in and start talking to him. You have a lot more control in this situation than you realize.

[In_Trance]

What are you doing to make this happen?
You make mention of putting yourself out there for others to approach you but how often do you approach?

[CozyCoffin]

Give younger guys a chance.

[ab2shifty]

It takes time to find someone

[Anonymous]

unexpected case