Why am I single?

[ginamengi]

normally I am not insecure, actually I think I am very attractive. I am charismatic, and outgoing and I am very passionate about people and human interaction. I know I have attracted men before, but most of it is very shallow. I know I have a lot to give, I am hard working, I'm compassionate. I'm funny, I make people laugh all the time. I am adaptable to many different people and am able to develop friendships with all kinds of people.

I am literally the definition of an extrovert. I just love humans. Of course, I also have some bad qualities as I am sure we all do, no body is perfect but I just wonder why I am single even though I have a lot of good qualities. I want something serious with a man, as I have spent years fucking around and having flings for many years. I want to settle down. and every real relationship I have had, has ended badly. and I am sure that none intended to stay long term anyways. so my questions stands, why am I single? When I asked a recent ex he only said that I was probably "intimidating to most men" and I still don't know how he meant it

[Flatmanlewis]

You’re single because that’s the odds of meeting people. Settle into life, learn to be who you want to be as a person, and allow the right people to drift into your orbit. As your own self-identity forms, your career, and your social circle evolves you’ll find decent people. At only 25 I don’t think your all that far away from your wild days that it may take some time to fully adapt away from you projecting that energy.

So, as far as you being shall we say promiscuous - so what. If you are a good enough woman your past probably won’t be a deal breaker for all men. Some may see it as one, yes, but that’s okay. Others may be more relaxed with your previous wild years. Sadly, we can’t be all things in life and there could be some people that aren’t willing to accept that kind of past and that’s okay too. We all get ti choose who we let into our lives for our own reasons. Don’t take it personal and move on.

Lastly, sometimes wee single because we simply haven’t met the right person. Don’t be in such a rush that you accept whomever comes along that is willing to have a real relationship. Wait until the right fit comes along and let it happen naturally.

[Hawkeye249]

You may be trying too hard to find someone like you.

Consider that it is generally practical for males to maintain cars and women to cook.

Do your close friends know you want to be in a serious relationship?

Have they tried to set you up on a date and you declined because you already knew he wasn't right - without even going on one date?

I was very lucky on a dating app.

She appreciated that I described myself accurately, without embellishing.

Neither of us disclosed our body counts - and don't need to.

We took our time getting to know and learning of each other's qualities for ourselves.

Good Luck!

[zetareticuli]

You answered your own question. The problem with ladies these days is they want to live their life as a skeezer and then become a wife. You can't have both and you won't find the guy that you're looking for. Lowering your standards is the only option or stay single.

[ginamengi]

I find this response very uncalled for, one problem between genders. a man does it, and its okay. a women does it she's a "skeezer"? I would to like emphasize that I said "AS I SPENT MY LIFE" meaning past tense and I choose not to live like this today. why the hell should I judged and victimized when others, especially men (since we've decided to point fingers) do the same thing and get a pat on the back for it? like I said, I get on with a variety of people so therefore I have also found interest in a variety of people, telling me to "Lower my standers" is not only an insult to me but it is also an insult to the men you have automatically forced under this category, no body is too good for no body. what a closed minded, incompetent response to my question smh

[zetareticuli]

That stuff matters to men whether you like it or not. The easiest thing women can do is get sex and that's why women used to shame the town whore for that behavior. Also I'm not pointing the finger, I have no problem with women doing what they want. BUT that type of woman needs to understand they've lost their leverage and have no business trying to get a good man who did the right things in his life.

[ginamengi]

and it doesn't matter to women when men do just the same thing? the only problem is that when men do it, it is praised upon and when women do it, they're whores. Just because I choose to have fun at some point and then now want to settle down doesn't mean I don't deserve a real shot at something serious just as I would say a guy who did the same thing and decided to settle down eventually. he would deserve the same thing. I am offended and disappointed yet again by the judgment of men on this website and in general. I stand with my opinion that no one should "lower their own standards" and that the comment alone is just very inappropriate, I don't think you would like to find out that you should "lower" your standards or that ones standards were "lowered" for you.

[zetareticuli]

I don't know what else to tell you. This is the world we live in. Most women don't like an inexperienced man. Men like untouched women for a life partner or at least very few body count.

[Anonymous]

In simple terms, you really don't want a relationship. Or more accurately you don't want to do what's necessary to have a relationship. You want it handed to you. Don't worry this is many women now a days.

[DarkLegacy]

Those years of fucking around have caught up with you

[ginamengi]

once again another man with this opinion, please tell me, if this post was made by a man, would you have the same opinion? or would you pat him on the back and tell him there are other fish in the sea?

[DarkLegacy]

Lol that old chestnut, what is sauce for the goose is not always good for the gander. Feminist mentality.

[ginamengi]

you say it like it's an insult?