I'm 19 and I want to get married because I dislike modern dating culture. How do I find a decent guy?

[Anonymous]

I'm 19 and I want to focus and a husband. Modern dating is all sleeping around and dating apps. I don't want hookups or a sting of emotion attached exes. I don't think the “experience” is worth the wasted energy and emotional drain of dating and having phsical intimacy with so many peo’ple. How can I find a husband? I’m not saying the perfect guy but someone I find attractive who I can build a family and happy life with.

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2 mo

Sorry for the grammar mistakes my phone screen is cracked on the keyboard.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

My little sister found her husband the same way I found my wife: through friends. I met my wife at a picnic (friend of a friend). She met her husband at a home party she threw in her apartment (friend of a friend).

I think that's the best way, and you start off just being friends for a good while (possibly flirty friends, but friends) and hang out together with your friend group/community before you even go on a single date.

And this way, by the time you even go on your very first date, you'll know you already get along, have similar values, and your shared friends will even be able to vouch on your mutual behalf.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I'm in Japan but my little sister met her husband in the US (an American guy). She also first tried online dating but hated it so much since every guy she met just wanted to hook up. Then she almost seemed to give up on dating completely and just started making friends (originally fellow staff from her school since she taught high school) and throwing and attending each other's home parties. Then her friends together with her started introducing new people into that group and her husband was one of the new people. They became friends for a good while all hanging out together in the group until they started dating.

My story with my wife was very similar but started at a picnic. I really think this is the ideal way to find your lifelong SO. You start as friends first among a group of mutual friends. Community and friendship first, dating second.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Unlike my sister, I never tried online dating but I went to lots of bars and nightclubs and got disappointed in a similar way with the kind of shallow hook-up culture there.

[HelpfulWoman]

Nothing decent is going to come out of trying to settle at 19. You'll only end up with a manipulative and probably abusive partner making use of the situation.

[Asker]

my entire family married young they’ve all been happily married. all it takes is finding someone good with your same values

[HelpfulWoman]

XD XD XD yeahhhhh i'm sure it's all "happily"

[Berethor]

If you stop being Anonymous you can find someone here, guys like a girl who is not a ho.

[Asker]

I would not want to marry a man from the incel forum full of 50 year olds