Do you think many (not all) men date women they are not attracted to to for validation and avoid loneliness?

[Anonymous]

Yes that’s definitely a thing

No not many do this

[Lynx122]

Well I think attraction is very complex. Like my ex girlfriend. We both like each other a lot but I don't think being together atm is a good idea. I was attracted to her but maybe not enough to deal with the extra stress. Maybe in 10 years things will change or maybe we'll just be close friends for ever. Personally I'm very comfortable with being alone so I only pursue a relationship if I think there's a chance of it working out. But dating is difficult so often times it doesn't work out even if there were a lot of positives.

[Finchie40]

No, what would be the point of dating someone you aren’t attracted to?

[PeachyPie93]

Yes. So many guys hit me up with no actual attraction or desire to date me they just want that ego boost.

[Asker]

how do you know they are not attracted?

[Asker]

there is a guy that wants to date me since finding out i liked him but i don't think he finds me attractive

[PeachyPie93]

They ghost me after talking for awhile or act like I owe them something just because they went on a date with me. If they were attracted they wouldn't treat me like that.
Why do you think he isn't attracted to you?

[Asker]

I'm just not his usual type

[PeachyPie93]

Ah, that doesn't mean anything actually. If he genuinely likes your personality and your company he could defo be into you, tastes change if you really like someone.

[Asker]

He made me a playlist (named it after me but didn’t share it) and deleted it after one year

[PeachyPie93]

How do you know this if he didn't share it?
Well if he had a playlist with your name he probably likes you, seems like a strange thing to do if he didn't like you. Unless you have a common or popular name? lol

[Asker]

Maybe but at that time he was awkwardly trying to get my attention in class. He soon made the playlist private but I could still access it. Now a year later he deleted it for some reason but he still glances at me at the beginning of the lecture

[PeachyPie93]

You will never know unless you make a move. He clearly isn't going to.

[Asker]

Yeah maybe him not going a move is a sign he is not attracted? I mean he knows I liked him

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah but you running away and being shy is probably giving him mixed signals.

[boggboss]

U already rejected him by running away when he wanted to talk to you untill u deal with your own insecurities u will never have a working relationship as u will sabotage any form of it

[Fireguy17]

I'm sure there are some that do that.
Kind of an any port in a storm thing.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Yes and women also settle for less. Why I wonder 🧐🧐🤔

[CVNT5]

remember, its my time.
i only date someone who i am interested in.

[Pohjolan]

That seems like a extra hassle for no reason.

[Anonymous]

Yes absolutely.. I Have done it many times.

I'm very unattractive so I take what I can get ( with in reason )

[jahaims]

I think most people date for that reason

[Starrrboy]

Women do it as much tbh..

[Anonymous]

Validation? Maybe. Loneliness? No.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope, not many

[Asker]

how do i know a guy really finds me attractive or just wants my attention for an ego boost?

[BarryLiverstone]

You don’t. He could be lying or honest. Instead you can choose to go on a date and see how it goes.

[Asker]

yeah but many men even marry women they are not attracted to so chances are i will never find out

[BarryLiverstone]

In arranged marriages that’s possible. But we were not discussing marriage. If a guy is attracted to her he will want to date her and be into her.

You have a mirror. Are you attractive?

[Asker]

i think i am somewhat attractive but men don't flirt with me so maybe i'm wrong.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s possible. If you are attractive then he may be genuinely interested. Has he asked you out?

[Asker]

no but he told his friends about me and try to make eye contact from afar to approach me but i ignored him and ran away.

[BarryLiverstone]

Seems like an odd response to run away from a guy. Did you get away?

[Asker]

I ran away that day but i still see him regularly in college and he was glancing for a while but now he stopped and purposely looks away

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok. So not to worry about. You rejected him so you can date someone else

[Asker]

i did not really reject him im just afraid he won't like me

[BarryLiverstone]

You ran away, not stayed to talk to him.

[Asker]

He knows that I’ve had a massive crush on him for years though

[BarryLiverstone]

So another gag question about a crush.. which means it’s likely you will ask about this again. Gotcha

[Asker]

So? WHO cares

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s against gag rules to ask duplicate questions

[Asker]

Never said it was duplicate

[BarryLiverstone]

It is. You are asking about your crush over and over again. That’s not fair to the gag community. This isn’t free therapy

[Asker]

No? Like I can only ask one question about my crush? Read up the definition of duplicate

[Asker]

*look up

[BarryLiverstone]

Duplicate – If you've already posted a particular Question/myTake, please do not post it again as it will be removed. If you’re wanting more Opinions, please consider sharing it via social media.

[BarryLiverstone]

Consider sharing on social media about your multi year crush. You are older than I am and still in school

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.