How can I focus on myself?

[Anonymous]

This may sound weird but I'm trying to focus on my career and focus on myself. I'm not ready for a relationship and most men wants a woman thats has stuff going on for herself. Relationships should should be the last thing on my mind but I've gotten a crush on this one guy. I only talk to him a few times and the more I talk to him the more attracted I get. On one hand I shouldn't be into him and the other I feel like im missing out on a great guy.

[DoggyDude]

Your focusing on yourself by being with the people you enjoy.

I don't feel that men are particularly concerned about how put together (stuff going on for herself) a woman is (excepting some basics like looking after herself and not being overly focused on shallow matters).

I'd even venture a woman whos appears to have everything sorted out and seems strong and independent is a little scary for some men (since some men will wonder if they can meet up to someone like that, and wether over time she might bet bored of them being not as organised themselves).

I guess what you might mean here is, how to keep focused on making sure you have a life your happy with (and which has room for a guy) without risking putting everything else on the back burner whilst you do that?

So, the best way forward is leave the 'being picked ' down to the guy, or in other words. Acknowledge to yourself whos company your enjoying and do seek it out, but know thats not your soul aim. Then see how things figure out over time. Just do what your wanting to do thats important for you to feel you have stuff going on, but make sure whatever you have going on has lots of space for people to share it.

Then see how it all falls out.

[Finchie40]

Still focus on yourself and if this crush of yours likes you, like you like him , then he will start to invest more of his time into you and make it clear to you that he likes you , if he is only calling you here and there , then it sounds like he is weighing his options and you are better off not falling for someone like that. Because the truth is when a guy really likes a girl , he invests a lot of his time into her , calling her every day and checking in on her , making sure you are ok and looking forward to seeing you as soon as possible , if he isn’t doing that to you then he is weighing his options and playing the field

[laly520]

prioritize urself, ur needs

focus on growing

[JacobJordan]

No most men don't want a woman that has stuff going for her. Stop listening to other women about what men want. Stop listening to feminists about what men want. Otherwise you will end up just like the women giving you that "advice" alone and bitter

[Anonymous]

Given what you posted, I think focusing on yourself is the best thing you can do.