Do you think marriage can suck?

Question

Because what if my future wife suddenly decides she doesn’t want to give me 5 kids? Wtf do I do? I’m trapped. I’m gridlocked

JoePro_ · Accepted Answer

Relationships, in general, are give and take. And not everyone is happy 100% of the time. Sometimes it sucks. But if you care about the person, and they seem to care about you, you'll find common ground. Sometimes they give up on what they were aiming for or try to fix something that's not quite right with them, and sometimes you'll need to give up on what you were aiming for or try to fix something that's not quite right with yourself. A good relationship, even if it sucks sometimes, will typically operate in this way.

If one person in the relationship seems to be take, take, take... The other person should get out and dodge that bullet as soon as possible.

Otherwise, work with what you have. Doing your best to maintain an imperfect match (which is 99% of relationships) is easier than trying to find a more perfect match. That "grass is greener on someone else's lawn" is usually a nonsense mentality, which leads to serial relationship abandoning for the next lawn. And it's never greener. Same shades of green, just with a different pattern, different personality, different traits that are good and bad.

Mr_twoface · Accepted Answer

Hahaha, Marriage is about give and take. If you want to have 5 kids, find someone who wants to have 5 kids. Not all women are open to do that. I had a whole bunch of demands and as time went by, I understood a lot were unrealistic or my opinions changed. I stick to also having 5 kids. And I came across the women who not only is compatible with me on so many levels but also is ready for 5 kids. We’ve been married 2 years now and I’ve realised, after spending hundreds of hours with my two nieces, that raising kids its not all fun and entertaining always. So now I am down to 3.

It's not easy giving birth, nor carrying the baby for 9 months (not to mention all the ups and downs we husbands must go through 😃) and if no complications take place on her or the baby… you still must raise them up in the world we live in. We’ll … We are also very open to adoption so let’s see after the first born.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Marriage will definitely suck with a person that has that kind of primitive conception of what marriage is.

Who is it that will have to be pregnant for at least 5 years in a row? Who is it that will have to go through the pain of giving birth to those 5 souls? Who is it that will have to raise them while the husband is fooling around? Who is it that will end up alone when the husband has enough of the shouting and screaming? Who is it that will have to fight to make ends meet when the husband fornicates a younger person because she is no longer attractive?

In all the questions, the answer is always the same: The woman.

Yes, marriage will suck if the woman is unfortunate enough to meet a guy that only sees her as a machine to give birth, the way you seem to view women.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Not all women can have 5 kids so that's just a dumb way to think. What If you get with your wife and she's infertile or has 1 baby and gets secondary infertility? Are you gonna leave her?

Marriage can be a good thing If both people put in the work. Its only bad when 1 or both people stop trying. It shouldn't be about having a specific amount of kids

lightbulb27 · Answer

I see a lot of good marriages going on, but often they occurred after bad or the marriages blew up.

an old welder said it best..."if ya gonna weld stuff tagetha, better make dang sure they fit right.".

or somthin like that...

sawno · Answer

Absolutely, I have seen that. People just staying together for functional reasons. Or one of the two exploiting the position, knowing it's fatal for the other to leave. But the same is with relationships, I think anyone coming out of a bad relationship can tell you that relationships also can suck.

Unit1 · Answer

Call me crazy but most married people I saw looked like they got almost entirely drained out of their life or they became fat and ugly or all things together. The question is who or what is the vampire, that shows up to the married people and ruins them?

Xia1994 · Answer

Marriage is very hard that's why you need to marry the right person the right one makes it all worth it.

Quigly · Answer

The only reason to get married is to have kids or to take care of someone that needs you. Which is great, however, there's a lot of sacrifices to your freedoms. It's stupid to make those sacrifices without a purpose just because you thought some girl was a hot babe. You're an idiot if you do.

Simslover92 · Answer

I think there will be times where marriage will indeed suck but if you choose the right person, it won't suck too much and you will probably have more good days than bad days.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Only sucks if you ask her nicely and have good hygeine 😂 If you don't want kids, get snipped.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I’m sure it can. My parents almost got divorced. But 5 kids is a lot.

steveusna · Answer

Stay away from marriage. Guys are ruined by it

Yannae · Answer

You find someone who dreams of having five kids. Who really wants that to happen, because that is a huge commitment.

Berweic · Answer

If you marry the right person, you will live like a king. Be careful, choosing a spouse is very important, my friend!

jamesgoldman · Answer

The amount of wedding rings I've bought definitely says that much

JayBones · Answer

It's not that it can suck. It's that it absolutely does suck and you are a retard if you marry an American woman.

12karen · Answer

Well, 5 kids is a lot, she's your wife and you should respect her decision since she's the one who'll carry those 5 baby

HouseMoat · Answer

Marriage is literally just a wedding and a piece of paper. Why do you need the state telling you that you're together?

gorydetails · Answer

You talk about children before you get married and come to an agreement.

Anonymous · Answer

If you manage not to fuck up by choosing the wrong person, you'll be way ahead.

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

No. divorce can suck. Marriage does the other stuff

WindyandWarms · Answer

You're asking on a site full of morons.

strateguy632 · Answer

it can, but sometimes counseling helped.

boggboss · Answer

Same if u decide u no longer want her

LazerBean · Answer

It definitely can, if you do it wrong.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Seems to suck more so for men than for women.

Dongie · Answer

It cannot not suck.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Of course it can.

Luvlylita · Answer

You fall out of love

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes marriage is work

ab2shifty · Answer

Probably..

Anonymous · Answer

lmao

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