Is it possible for unstable women to be loved?

[Anonymous]

I have unstable relationships with men idk… I feel like some still talk to me and they admit that they don’t know why.. but they discard me in the end

[Anonymous]

Honestly I’ve been w some very unstable women who I truly loved. But it was just too much of a rollercoaster. That’s what pushed me away. My issue wasn’t that I wasn’t willing to be w her. My issue was that she wasn’t willing to address these issues, to get help. She felt like everything was everyone else is fault. That’s what I had an issue w. Because honestly when she was having good days she was a great person to be around.

[Asker]

Was she borderline

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sure she was something. She never got help. Still hadn’t till this day. Now she has 5 kids w 4 different dudes.

[Asker]

Oof nah

[Opinion Owner]

Are you emotionally unstable?

[Asker]

Yes I am …. I feel like relationships really trigger me… I hate feeling emotionally unsafe… I hate feeling vulnerable

[Asker]

I hate love

[Opinion Owner]

Any idea why you’re like that?

[Asker]

lol like what?

[Opinion Owner]

Like someone molested you when you were little or some dude cheated on you or something? Maybe your dad wasn’t in your life?

[Asker]

I was never molested but I did sexual acts with older cousins… but I’m not mad at them. I don’t think that caused trauma

My dad was active in my life and did a lot for me but he didn’t really teach me about life and men.. he just said the right one will come

I’ve only had situationships… never a real relationship.. they all found someone better

[Opinion Owner]

What kind of sexual acts? How old were you? More than likely that has a lot to do w why you’re the way you are?

[Asker]

Nah it doesn’t. I was prob 7 she was 14… but it has nothing to do with it.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. You say that but you don’t even know why you’re the way you are so you can’t before sure. Anything else happen in your life? Was your mom unstable?

[Asker]

I think I have mommy issues badly

Looking back I think she had issues

[Opinion Owner]

How were things between your dad n your mom?

[Asker]

They’re on good terms. They were that couple who were in love with eachother. They were married for 11 years but divorced when I was 6/7

They’re still friends but my dad is remarried

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So maybe a lot of issues w why you are the way you are. Especially abandonment issues

[Asker]

Yeah ik one guy … I totally didn’t want him to leave me … I was depressed and “jokingly “ told him I would kill myself..

[Opinion Owner]

What did he say in response?

[Asker]

He said I care about you even if you can’t see it lol 😂

[Opinion Owner]

I see. So do you just hook up w random men?

[Asker]

No I don’t

[Opinion Owner]

Well I certainly hope things work out for you.

[Asker]

Same