-A woman's need is their love. If the man is sufficiently useful and her need is sufficiently great, she'll try to lock him into a commitment.
-Men love idealistically, we males do not NEED but we can still give love. The flaw with many men is that they believe that because they work hard they should get noticed and loved.
Think for a moment what women hate in men is want they themselves are. All of this comes from woman's NEED. Her love is her NEED for things in men. -I hate needy men (Because I'm needy) -I hate weak men (Because I'm weaker than men) -I hate short men (Because I don't feel protected) -I hate bitchy men (Because I'm a bitch) -I hate broke men (Because instinctively need resources)
What should we take away from this? Men need to realize women are incapable of loving you they way you desire it. We men can love 50 women equally without reason... women can not do this. Women can not love 50 men equally. Women are designed to love the useful traits in men. When see NEEDS you she loves you, the moment you aren't needed is when she doesn't love you.
This is why on an instinctual level men HATE feeling not needed. Because without our utilitarian traits we can't be loved. The ONLY female that may show unconditional love is your mother who is instinctively meant to nurture you. Sadly most men grow up thinking all women are like their mothers loving and nurturing which is false.
Women will always be opportunistic, not loving and nurturing like mothers are. Only your mother will show unconditional love and will allow a son to be/show weakness.
Men you are alone because the love you seek from women doesn't existand never did exist. Her love is the NEED for your utility. She never really loved you for you. This is just the nature of reality.
Women love opportunistically (Unconditional love from a woman is impossible)?
There is no such thing as unconditional love to a partner. He cheats or tries to get aggressive with me, he's out. I would stop loving him.
Your statement: What should we take away from this? Men need to realize women are incapable of loving you they way you desire it.
You already put conditions in the ending of the sentence by saying we're incapable of loving you the ''way you desire it''. So if women are incapable of conditional love so are men.
by the way, the only type of unconditional love (or even remotely close to it) I've heard of is the love of a parent towards his/her child. Other types have conditions.
You lost me when you said that a man can love 50 women equally. Can you please define this love that can be shared in that way? If my girlfriend said she loved me, but there were 49 other guys that she also loved, I wouldn't feel very special to her.
However, I do get something about what you are saying. My girlfriend has one son, so I will never be higher than the second priority in her life. If her son married and has two children, I will move down to the #4 spot in her life, but. . . she will always expect to be the #1 priority in my life. Women don't see anything wrong with what I have just described.
Having 50 copies of my girlfriend is like talking about what of dogs could talk. That's not real life. I am not capable of loving 50 different women at the same time. I might be capable of having a relationship with 50 women but it wouldn't be love. If you disagree with that, then your definition of "love" is significantly different from my definition.
OP figured out women. He is now doomed to a life of misery and bitterness. Let this be a lesson to you other men who think figuring out women is a good idea.
Also, my mother used the shit out of me, and doesn't even buy me birthday presents, but buys her dog something every week. You can't even expect love from your own mother anymore.
I dont completely agree with this But i think in our society, women are being raised wanting the wrong things in men
I think its up to us men, to expect more from our women, we have to change we love women, if we want them to change!
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I love my ex unconditionally... the reasons we broke up were somewhat not under our control... but I didn't expect anything from him actually... some might start hating when they become an ex but I believe its wrong...
I realized all this stuff ages ago, I agree with you women look at it like ticking boxes and they're more interested in your attributes than they are in you.
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