Let me show an example week. Let's say my boyfriend has the afternoon shift. Monday: I work from 8-20. We only meet that day at midnight for about 30 minutes, then we sleep. So I would expect him that before work , he texts me a few times. Tuesday: Im at home, he sleeps until 10am. We spend about 1-2 hours together and then he goes to work until midnight, when we meet for 20-30 minutes. Wednesday is the same as Monday. Thursday is the same as Tuesday. Friday Im free again, Saturday I work again, and Sunday Im free, when we spend the day together. His morning shift is the same, but then we are together in the afternoon and separate before noon. Shortly : on weekdays we meet on 2-3 days for maximum 6 hours and on one weekend day for a full day. He says he should not text me even when I am at work, because he should be able to do his thing (gaming, sports, etc). Am I really expecting too much? We are both 24 and living together
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Am I really too much?
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For him clearly if he doesn't want to have to text you constantly
I dont know why he thinks I need it constantly when I clearly explained that 1 sentence every 2-3 hours would make me feel like he cares. Somehow he feels like that is constantly texting... I am at work, even I dont have the time to do that.
People say that you should not text your partner when at work and I could respect that, but his job is so weird, sometimes he doesn't even have time to eat and other times he binge watches tictok for hours - with the matter one, I would actually expect him to chat
Why would u expect him to chat u live together their will be time to chate when u spend time for the most part guys don't like texting if its a massive issue for you then push it again but I dont think it's a issue if when u spend quality time it's actually spent with I
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I hear you, but its hard when we spend more time separate than together, because he has a 6-3 and 3-12 job, and I have a 8-8 job. We are pretty much tired after work, so we like to take a short walk, watch movies, drink a beer or sometimes play board games, but mostly we play games next to each other on the bed or at the computer.
Some couples spend the whole weekend together and every afternoon. For us its like 2 afternoons and a day of a weekend. That is why I would expect him to text me. Especially because we became much better of friends in the past year, we have great flow in chatting.
Its good u have become closer but if u make it compulsory he will either start pulling away or things will get dry I get other couples might spend more time but u guys ain't other couples and how much u want to spent time might not be the same find somthing that works for both u guys
I don't know Im just having doubts. This silly boy hid a proposal ring in the wrong spot and I found it when I was cleaning. Did not look inside. He had always been very strict with engagement, he is not the type to propose after a year because he feels like he loves the girl enough. What I mean by this is that if he does propose, that is serious. And my doubts are especially because of this. Like, can he really love me if he feels like he needs so much alone time? I have already talked about it with him, but I still dont get it.
Love has nothing to do with how much time u need alone everyone has different levels of alone time if u are questiniong his love bevause he likes alone time then u are being silly
Ill admit, then I am silly. I always felt like is someone loves you, you can't be much, only on rare occasions. Im not saying people should leech on each other, but talking throughout the day seems "mandatory" if you love being with your partner.
I slowly start to realize that he is different. Years ago I was jealous of p0rn. Because that is a visually stimulating thing. I never understood why when I touch him (not even sexually, just lovingly) he gets turned on, but when Im naked, he doesn't get a boner that often. I thought that maybe I work different than p0rn for him
No we all are different and have different understanding of how much communication is required some want more then others
Thank you. My boyfriend has a hard time communicating his feelings because he had no one to listen to him , so now I just assume things out of logic that I developed from men I met
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