Is it weird my friend helped me get a date with a lady she dislikes?

[Anonymous]

She doesn't like my crush, but she apparently talked her into going out with me anyway. I asked her why and she said: "You're my friend, I wanna see you be happy, even if it's with... her."

[JoePro_]

Possibly? Could mean she doesn't like you too? Lol. I don't know. That said, I have known some people who just want to see others happy. Could be she's one of those types. Despite not liking someone, if she can play matchmaker and the relationship works out, it makes her happy that she was able to bring people together who also get to be happy.

[Asker]

My friend told me she doesn't like her because she's a perfectionist, I told my friend that I didn't care.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Its weird that 2 friends don't like the same kinds of people.

People usually only like similarly minded people, so aside from the sexual attraction/lack thereof difference between the 2, the qualifications for being compatible enough to be someone's friend, is the same as being compatible enough to be their SO.

[Peridot25]

There’s your answer! She knows you like this woman so she’s putting her selfishness aside for you. It would be wrong of her to tell you don’t date your crush all because your friend doesn’t like her. I applaud your friend for being mature.

[Asker]

Yeah, you're right, she apparently also told her she'd be missing out if she didn't give me a chance.

[annabananna]

It’s weird but maybe she just thought y'all personalities would mesh well even if she isn’t her type of person.

[Asker]

Really not her type of person at all, though she said she told her I was a great guy and that it would be a mistake if she didn't give me a chance.

[Asker]

@annabananna Oh, and they're also co workers, my friend claims to dislike her because she's a perfectionist.

[tierrlamé]

She likes you. Women will sometimes act like they dont want you at all as a way of moving on. Now you are with someone she doesn't like and it makes it easier. I learned this from my female friend lol

[Asker]

If that's the case, I guess that's convenient, I don't have any romantic feelings for my friend.

[tierrlamé]

Alright cool

[Asker]

She apparently doesn't like her because she's a perfectionist. lol

[tierrlamé]

Alright lol well be easy on her

[spartan55]

Is her friend hot? Just kidding (kind of). That is definitely unusual and would keep your eyes open if things progress.

[Angelo75]

I'd say... put your attention on "that friend".

If she doesn't have a boyfriend yet, go for her.
If she's ready to make a sacrifice like that, she'd be someone that definitely isn't selfish.

[Asker]

What about the other girl?

[Asker]

Sorry for late follow up but I was busy and forgot to say, the date with the other woman is already set.

[Angelo75]

Well to put it simply... which of the girls do you think will more likely be ready to go through hell for you?

That's what you're looking for in a girl. Not the one you gotta chase and which might end up not having a lot of appreciation for you, but the girl who already proved to you how much she's willing to sacrifice for you.
Remember... you're looking for a long-term relationship, so you want someone you can rely on.

[Anonymous]

Seems to me she's interested in you, but cares enough about you that she wants you happy no matter who you're with.

[Asker]

I don't have the same feelings back, should I just not bring it up?

[Miah04]

Naw. I literally tried to do the same thing. It doesn't matter how i feel as long as she makes him happy

[msc545]

No, I don't think it's weird at all. Your friend behaved like a very good friend for you. You should be grateful for this.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Nah that's a real friend right there. Not weird at all

[ProbablyClueless]

Nope. That's just being a good friend.

[KrakenAttackin]

Not at all, that's actually very kind of her.

[LadyLa820]

Nah not weird.

[strateguy632]

helpful

[strateguy632]

she was being helpful

[JayBones]

Yes. Deal with it pussy

[laly520]

seems ok