Did you have your child when you two met? I’m only asking because if the child was already in the picture then to me he was deceitful and knew from the start that he didn’t want a relationship since you’re a mother, yet strung you along anyway.
However, if you’ve had this child within these past 7 years then I can understand his stance more. At some point you’d be introducing him to your kid, and eventually they would form some sort of bond to where they sees him as a second father figure (assuming their dad is still in the picture), and often times men don’t want that role. He’d prefer it just be you and him, so you can have your own family and first child would be shared. It’s a value some men have and others don’t, but at the end of the day, valid of being respected.
In any case, I wouldn’t spend any more time waiting for him. You don’t deserve to be put through the emotional wringer any more than you already have.
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Right cut him off and move on. He'll take sex from you for sure just not a relationship
This is not personal, but it is a fact of life that most men that don't already have children are not going to want to date a woman with kids from another men. Inevitably, he will end up being responsible, to some degree or other, for the child, but will never have the rights or authority that he'd have with his own children. And if things don't work out with the mom, he'll have established a bond with that child and will not be able to continue that relationship.
And you will find that most of the men who don't think you having a child is a big deal are going to be men who just intend to use you for a bit of companionship and some casual sex.
I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. Perhaps the best pool of men to date would be single fathers. They are in a similar situation, and one that is more balanced, so the two can relate well to each other.
I don't know, but you're exactly the kind of woman I'm looking for.
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I wouldn't wait around for him to change his mind, if I were you. He told you that you having kids is a deal breaker for him.
Guy I like says he wouldn’t date me because I have a child?
Completely justified.
Move on, he isn't interested.
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