Guys, If you like someone, why would you avoid/ignore them?

[Pinay_ako]

[MatureSexyClassy]

Pinay_ako did you ask me a question? I thought I saw one but this site acts kinda strange. I don't find it very user friendly.

Many guys do this as a way to attract women and get women wondering why they are being ignored. I don't agree with this tactic. I think it's counterproductive. It's playing games and unfriendly at a minimum of negative vibes. At worst it is manipulation, and not a healthy way to start a relationship of any kind at all- and I mean relationship in the most broad sense, which can look different with different people.

[Pinay_ako]

Thank you. Being upfront is better

[MatureSexyClassy]

100% agreed. You're very welcome.

[spartan55]

Ha! That's funny.

[Lucidquestions]

I can only speak for myself, but my past experience makes me assume I am just bring pranked or something, I want to accept but am too concerned with it being another "joke" that I am super hesitant, stacked with being naturally shy and it's a mess

[AviatorTom]

There could be lots of reasons, here are a few:

1. I'm in a relationship with someone else

2. They are in a relationship with someone else

3. I may like them but doubt I could ever love them

4. We have conflicting politics or religions

5. We are in an environment where relationships are not allowed, i. e.- we work together and one of us supervises the other

[Decoded93]

There could be multiple reasons

The most obvious is because you realize they don’t like/love you back and you’re mature enough to realize you can’t make someone develop feelings for you

The other big reason would be that you’re not in the right place in life to give the person the relationship they deserve, so you avoid the person because you don’t want to make a big mistake

There are other reasons I’m sure some guys have that maybe could be selfish, but I can’t think of them right now

[Lionman95]

Because I would assume they are taken if I'm not 100% sure whether they are single and I don't want to invest in someone taken. Another reason is because I don't know whether the interest is mutual, if a woman is nice to me that doesn't mean she's interested. Since I'm not good at reading signs from body language I don't want to invest and later be called a pervert.

[Vermillion30]

I like someone right now I flirted, tried suggesting coffee to talk about similar interests but not an outright date. She’s giving me extremely mixed signals one day she’s flirtatious the next it’s just friends. So now I avoid her.

I think it’s to either avoid getting hurt or to seem not interested to make them possibly make first move.

[Night_Descends]

This question reminded me of my days of shyness. It could be because of the following reasons:

• We're too shy.
• We are afraid of rejection.
• We don't want to set off a negative impression out of awkwardness

[itsclearlynicholas]

I often wonder that as over thinker: then I realise they weren't ignoring me or even ignoring, they were just enjoying their lives the way I have things that come up and sometimes I also just want, my time. And not to shine lol ☀️🌞

[Truthatanycost]

I do this if I am finding her too much of a distraction from more important stuff. But also if I discover she has a promiscuous past or present.

[spartan55]

I wouldn't, this is definitely more of a woman's tactic from my experience. And it fails miserably every time.

[superchan2011]

I think one of the main reasons would be due to shyness or possibly being afraid of rejection. So it can feel safer to not act on your feelings for someone.

[Drew-1990]

It's cause some of us are shy. Its not that I'm trying to ignore her it's more I'm terrified to talk to her and look like an awkward idiot.

[Unit1]

I literally never did that.

29 years old and still single.

[BadApple69]

I wouldn’t. I would do everything possible to be on their radar all the time.

[motownplayer2000]

I go one step further.. women, if you like someone and they like you back.. why are you out here playing games with them when a mature relationship would be to get to know them

[82lynx]

So they can’t have and ultimately abuse power over me.

[Fuentes]

She acted funny or did some weirdo stuff or acted cold to me first.

[Dreamclouds]

To not get more feelings, it is really hard to like someone a lot and not be able to be with her

[Mediterraneansoul]

Attention is earned not handed out like candy. If we give you too much of it, you'll think you can get any guy and start showing off

[ballweevil]

Probably because we don't think we have chance with that person so we try to distance ourselves

[RavVid]

At work, I might if I liked them too much.

[Pinay_ako]

Too much?

[RavVid]

yeah. Don't want to confuse work and private life.

[NathanDavis]

oh, I don't... lol

[Tomisworthless]

1. Feeling unworthy/ knowing you’re unworthy

2. Don’t want to make them disgusted or afraid by the thought that I find them attractive

[JayBones]

Because I did not like them. I think you have your signals crossed

[TommyMountainFigure]

I wouldn't. That is just pure stupidity!

[Lottydotty]

Nerves. My emotions too much

[BryanMoore]

guys who do this are dumb!

[888theGreat]

Playing hard to get. I make women chase me

[888theGreat]

Usually they are 21 year olds believe or not. Not 22 or 23 but 21 .

[MrDaveAPSI]

I should ask the same of women

[underling]

Because some males are shy

[genericname85]

only if i got rejected by them.

[austinbooth]

I certainly wouldn’t