I always feel like my boyfriend will leave me and get worried. How can I stop stressing?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend never indicated that he wants to leave me but I feel like he wants to leave me and I stress out and feel scared. I always need him to tell me that he loves me and that he is staying. I need him to comfort me all the time. Why is that and how can i stop being this needy?

[TommyMountainFigure]

You have to fight the urge to be like this, because it is a sure fire way to get him bored of you, and ultimately leave!

The problem you now have though is if you suddenly stop being this needy, he may well get suspicious.

Next time you feel all clingy, stop yourself in mid cling (is that even an expression?) and say.. NOPE, I'm not going to be so clingy in future!!! At least he knows you're fighting it and not because you're suddenly going off him!

[strateguy632]

seems like you had past trauma. make your own "loop", 1, you fear he will leave so you want him to say... but before saying that 2, you know if seem needy he might flee, so 3, restrain and then 4, you don't seem needy so... he will not flee. <^>.

then just be you.

[laly520]

u gotta start having a life outta him
try to control ur worries n focus more on urself

[slatyb]

Counseling could help. Also read "Attached"

[jahaims]

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