Why do I get depressed whenever my boyfriend leaves?

[hannah]

Whenever my boyfriend goes back to his place I feel depressed... I know it’s normal to be sad when your partner leaves your side, but I literaly don’t want to do anything at that time... And it happens again and again. Do you have any suggestions for me?

[Summeroflove]

Well it could be a sign of something deeper going on mentally. Have you ever told him how you feel? Just sit him down and have a heart to heart about it communicating is very important.

It’s understandable to miss your partner but as others have said you should feel happy independently you maybe could consult a mental health professional about this as well who can maybe help you.

[Fireguy17]

number one, don't date me.
I am gone a lot, work out of town, do crazy shifts and hours.
There is an old saying that you can't miss me unless I go away.
Do you have a fear of abandonment, or trust issues that he is doing something else or someone else if he is not next to you?
Are you afraid that he will not come back?
Are/were you able to function on your own without being with someone else, are you an independent type of person?
You may want to look at yourself to figure out why you feel that way, and if it really becomes an issue or you think you are not able to handle it, maybe see someone for some help?

[4ngelic]

i'm kinda the same. when i have a boyfriend (or even just a crush) half the time i get sad (and at times even very depressed) when we have to part ways even if i'll see him tomorrow. i always thought it was a symptom of being in love

[4ngelic]

*only had read the question when answering so didn't rearlly know the details.
are you happy in general? are you scared he's cheating on you or might fall in love with someone else if he's away rom you?

[_Senorita_]

Don't get too attached with him or anyone in this world!! Otherwise u will be heartbroken

focus on yourself be productive... Do some skincare or any other hobby

First love yourself then others...

Don't be manipulated by anyone!!!

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a little love and wisdom on your situation. It sounds like you're riding the emotional rollercoaster of togetherness and separation, which, while intense, is not uncommon. The key here is building your own happiness fortress that stands strong, even when your boyfriend isn't around. Start by diving into activities that light you up inside or exploring new hobbies that intrigue you. It's about creating a balance where your joy isn't solely attached to his presence. Embrace the beauty of independence while cherishing the moments you share together. It's like having the best of both worlds when you can be happy both together and apart. Remember, love should be a wonderful addition, not your entire foundation. Keep shining, and keep loving – both your boyfriend and your fabulous self! 😊✨

[lightbulb27]

look inside self, find source of issue.

then look for solution in yourself, or in your relationship.

sounds somewhat normal, to at least have feelings. probably some past fear of being alone, being used and left, etc. bonding occurs...

[Anonymous]

personally, i don't think that's normal. you should feel good being independent too... if not, you need to get some hobbies and friends. don't make someone your whole world because if you two end up breaking up, you will be very distraught and not know how to function alone. and then you'll get a rebound and that could hurt the rebounds feelings.

[NathanDavis]

I would suggest, therapy...

and also a general check-up with your trusted physicians... all that chemistry in your body

also worth to consider your daily habits... exercise, diet, work, family and friends situation...

[itsannalee]

Are u being insecure and afraid that your boyfriend cheats on u when u both far away?
Being sad when your partner far awayis normal, but depressed sounds like too clingy, go to to him and find out what makes u like this.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Do you recognize yourself in this thread ?

[WhitneySnow]

I get that too. Try to talk to friends after he leaves. It’ll cheer you up.

[genericname85]

you mean he just leaves for the day and comes back? or you mean leave as in dump you?

[Anonymous]

Abandonment issues?

[SoJust]

I'm not happy hear , I hope don't leave

[Maybeyoutoo]

This is not a problem sir

[Jpie555]

Probably because you’re overly needy

[bowenw]

Move in with him.