Have you ever dated someone of different ethnicity, race or culture? How was your experience?

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If so, then how was your experience?

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

I dated a variety as a result of traveling a lot and in a sense, it's always kind of interracial and intercultural for me since I'm biracial and grew up in a variety of cultures (moved around all over the world growing up).

Also when I returned here to Japan as an adult, I had a tendency to both attract and be attracted to women from various parts of the world outside of Japan. I think it's because I wasn't entirely Japanese being half-American and also I don't 100% think and act like a person who grew up entirely in Japan. We'd have that sense of being foreigners somewhat in common.

They were all nice for the most part. I dated a black American woman (my first serious girlfriend in the US), some white Americans, Russian, French, Korean, Chinese, and the rest Japanese and ultimately my wife now of 14 years in the end (Japanese).

There were a few culture shock moments. Like with my first black American girlfriend in the US, she asked me on the first date if I was a "player" and I thought she was asking me if I played any video games. 😅 I didn't know that slang back then.

With the Russian one, she was amazing because she introduced me to her family right away when we started dating and they treated me like one of their own.

With the French one, she actually spent many years in Japan so it wasn't so different from dating Japanese. She spoke very fluent Japanese and we mostly hung out like a Japanese couple. Similar case with the Korean one.

The Chinese one was my most awkward date ever and we didn't make it to anything past first date (only time I never made it past first date). We just couldn't understand each other at all because I spoke mainly English and Japanese and she spoke no English, almost no Japanese, and mostly Mandarin. I bought a pocket translator (this was before we had these fancy smartphones) hoping we could translate things to/from Japanese and Mandarin just for our date and also brought a notepad so that we might be able to draw ideas to each other and communicate that way. That was a complete dud. We ended up spending over an hour just trying to figure out where to meet after she got lost on the way. When we first started hanging out, her friends would translate what I said in Japanese to her in Mandarin and what she said to me in Mandarin back to Japanese, but without the friends on the date, it was just hopeless.

Those are my main experiences. They were mostly good except with the Chinese woman and that was only bad because of the language barrier. We had no practical way to communicate with each other.

SolitarySolace · Accepted Answer

Sort of. I saw a Mexican/white chick for a bit. The day after we had our first kiss together she told me she wanted to stop seeing me and instead see a guy who likes to make racist jokes. 🤷🏻‍♂️ I guess girls of all colors and backgrounds have different ways of hurting men.

Mariena_Anne92 · Accepted Answer

Good and bad. Good because he was honest from beginning that his culture won’t let us being together, and our relationship won’t lead to future marriage or sort thing. Hurts to think everytime, someone i used to love, to hug, to kiss, one day another woman will have access to all this. To his life. And all things that he do for me. One day he will do it for another woman. He’s nice, kind, caring and funny. But his family believes in arrange marriages and he’s the eldest. I try to break up few times. Guest I wasn’t strong enough till the time I finally have to let him go. I think that’s the last time i wanna date someone from different culture, and belief.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I know more than one Chinese woman that became more interested in their Chinese culture after marrying or dating non Chinese men. they realized that their foreign culture was an asset and not a setback in their dating relationships. I've also met guys that could have chosen their wife out of dozens of same race peers and choose the average or unattractive person of a different race who had a good personality and brain cause they value what is different and unique over what is common but interesting.

DishLady · Answer

Yes.
Personal Experience: The experience in general would have been fine if it were just about me and the guy, but it was a long, serious relationship and so there were other factors to consider… My family, his family and integration of values. Still, it would have worked out if there weren't some additional toxic factors to deal with (which I believe was more about that particular SO's personality rather than his ethnicity).

Friends & Family Experience: So many people do enjoy intercultural relationships/marriages today. I don't want to deter anyone from trying just based on my own negative experience, however… the % of relationships that have lasted within my network have had to go through quite a bit to get to where they are now (married, kids, nice life). Several have still ended in divorce due to irreconcilable differences (disputes over how to raise the kids, where to live, whose religious and cultural traditions to follow more)…. So… this is a friendly shout-out to tread carefully and know what you're getting yourself into.

General Observations: Not everyone is mature enough to navigate an intercultural relationship. (This isn't a reference to age, but to EQ. Not everyone has the bandwidth or inner strength to address questions that come up, resistance between the families, etc.) Because of the extra strain on your time, heart and patience, I'd recommend only going for a serious dating/long-term relationship if you are certain that you've met "THE ONE," because while it's lovely to have that person in your life, the additional factors that continimpaually test and impact your lives can be very exhausting.

Degrees of Cultural Distinction: Possibly if a person is "culturaly adjacent" and shares some cultural commonalities (e. g., Greek/Albanian/Armenian/etc.) then you and your families can understand one another a little more readily despite a few snags (e. g., language) that can be resolved with time.

bobalife · Answer

I’ve been on dates all over the rainbow lol. It’s definitely interesting with different cultures, values, and how they treat a lady.
I guess the only downside is when an ex wasn’t as open minded about different cultures or experiencing abit racism from strangers for being an interracial couple.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes yes and yes. Its not hard but it has its hard moments where someone slips up and says something dumb. Currently in an interracial relationship. The majority of my high school relationships were black. The majority of my college relationships were white. The majority of my relationships after college were hispanic or Asian

Biancam13 · Answer

I almost always date people who aren't my ethnicity, since I'm mixed race. It's hard to even find someone who's the same combination as me.

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah the differences stand out and it can be weird ESPECIALLY around their family bc you're nervous too but you deal with it

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes, many times with various races. I treat each lady as an individual so nothing dramatic. The only culture shock was dating a Filipina and being invited to parties with her. I'm 6'2, she was 5'1, and the tallest othe guys there were like 5'6.

JayBones · Answer

I'm a Celto Scandinavian. I've only dated outside my ethnicity. Funnest was a Mexican girl, best at sex was an Italian girl, another Italian girl was wild all around. Married a Ukrainian pole. Trad wife. Gave me 3 beautiful Aryan daughters. Wish I married one of the WOPS instead. Shame I grew up in Philadelphia as an Irish kid. We are racist against Italians. Plus Skinny Joey Marlino killed my favorite cousin.

68wpnr86 · Answer

Dated and married. While, even 8 years later, we still occasionally find cultural differences that we didn't realize we had, it has been an amazing ride. I couldn't imagine being with anyone other than my wife. You both just have to keep an open mind, be prepared for new experiences that your partner considers normal, and communicate effectively.

Billlewis · Answer

I've dated/served Black women exclusively for more than thirty years, and I've been very pleased with the manner in which I've been kept.

Tegaknowss · Answer

I'm currently in an interracial relationship, and obviously it isn't easy because I'm black and our race gets pointed out a lot. But it's ok, as long as God approves of our relationship, race means nothing 😊

And being in an interracial relationship is beautiful because it's diverse and you learn so much 😊💗

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I have yeah, and I will again.. Some day.. It was like any other girl to me.. Of course I'm not a upset experienced dater so.. You know.. It's not too different.. Since they were American as well..

steveusna · Answer

I am Caucasian. i dated an Asian woman from Malaysia. She had an amazing body. She loved sex. She was first girl i fucked in the ass (not her first time). The only problem was that I couldnt stand her. She was rude, annoying, ill mannered.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Unlikely to work out for me. I don't waste my time clock ⌚⏰

Useacon_dom · Answer

I’ve dated black women all my life but I’m currently dating a Latina I ain’t going back black women are crazy 💀they always be yelling outta no where like dam wtf I do

mandyfire98 · Answer

My boyfriend is a black man and there's been no issues from outside the relationship at all. I love him and our relationship is wonderful.

Yannae · Answer

Yeah. I noticed no difference. It's just as great or awful.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure did! It was great!! But, after 4 years, she stopped fucking me and started cheating on me around our 9th year.

strateguy632 · Answer

yes, two good but most bad experience.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, I even married one.

LavLavLuv · Answer

I’m dating one

Yamaal · Answer

no it never happened.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes, as great as any other...

laly520 · Answer

it was worth it we r engaged now

genericname85 · Answer

yeah a few times. was nice. can't complain.

tasqueen · Answer

I have dated and love to do again

JacobJordan · Answer

I married a woman from a different culture

myloveforuisinfinte · Answer

I never dated anyone

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I would.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeah, generally fine

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