Why would a guy tell me about other date he has and text me right after his date?

[Anonymous]

I have dated multiple guys at the same time too, but none of them knew about each other…

What’s the point of him telling me about his date and texting me right after he gets home from there, asking me about my day?

[IslaTheWitch]

lol... I wouldn't guy who plays that way...

there are multiple options possible, most popular is to make you jealous. Another to give you information you are not the only one, so please me. One more can be you are not the only one so decide fast. An so on... in general the information is always like - you are on lower position so behave

[IslaTheWitch]

I wouldn't date*

[Asker]

Well, I was behaving pretty well I can say lol

[IslaTheWitch]

It's not about your real behavior

[Asker]

Then what?

[IslaTheWitch]

If you meet his expectations

[Asker]

How?

[IslaTheWitch]

You should know, I don't know him, so I don't know what kind of expectations he has towards you or any girl he dates

[Asker]

I was thinking he might be polyamorous

[Asker]

And he must have said it earlier if it was so! Not 3 months after getting to know each other

[KrakenAttackin]

@islathewitch. This is the winning answer.

[Drew-1990]

One of two things either like others said he is player and he wants you to know you are not the only girl. Or he really likes you and he maybe more of a one woman kind of guy so he wants to let you know about her out of respect of you or he feels bad seeing two girls. I'm not sure I would in his situation but personally I'm a one woman guy and I don't even like chatting with two girls at once.

[AviatorTom]

He's making sure you know thst you two are not exclusive, and that he prefers it that way. He is most likely a player, so he's not the guy for you if you are looking for something serious and long-term.

[Mr_twoface]

EIther you have fallen into his friendzone and sharing this information as a friend or like the other user said, covering his base by indirectly telling you don't take me being around for granted. He is making a statement that he has options too and can easily move on.

[NathanDavis]

for the same reason...

to let you know that he's dating left and right... and just like that

[Asker]

lol, why does he want to let me know that?

[Asker]

What’s his point

[NathanDavis]

to be clear... lol

that he goes around, has options... tries here and there, that you're not the only one

and this way you cannot mistaken him

[Asker]

Well, I never assumed I was the only one? Why does he assume I do?

[Asker]

I am sure he has options too, why would I like someone without options?

[Asker]

I do have options too but never mentioned them with him.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think he assumes... he's just covering bases and makes sure just in case

[Asker]

Yeah, but what does he get from that?

[Asker]

From telling me I mean.

[NathanDavis]

assurance that you are aware

[Asker]

Okay, I am aware. So what?

[NathanDavis]

another possibility is... that he could want to make you feel jealous...

[Asker]

I didn’t act jealous. Why would he want to make me jealous, I have been nice to him

[NathanDavis]

people who like to make others feel jealous are like that... not exactly about you... but just something they do... and would do with anyone else too

[NathanDavis]

or maybe he got jealous about something you did or say... so he would try to make you feel jealous as well

[Asker]

No, he really went on a date.

[NathanDavis]

I didn't mean he lied about it... I meant to say he let you know, possibly... to make you feel jealous

[NathanDavis]

did you feel jealous in any way or capacity?

[molonski2]

There is no point , and its not a good idea , if I were counselling him , I'd say " Don't do that " , but this guy feel the need for some reason.

[Asker]

Yeah, why did he feel the need?

[molonski2]

Well , I can hardly even think of an answer? Maybe to show how crappy his date was compared to you? Which is still not smart from his point , so the guy is no genius.

[Asker]

He told me before going there and when I asked him how it was he said “It was fine. Grabbed some coffee.”
I am confused really we’ve been talking for 2.5 months and instead of progressing anywhere that’s what he tells me.

Disappointed. I liked him. Not anymore.

[molonski2]

I wouldn't wipe him just yet , as at the end of the day , his sin was honesty and that at the end of the day is a quality.

[Asker]

Well, I thanked him for his honesty and asked him why did he decide to let me know that.

[Anonymous]

Transparency, honesty… sounds like men are always more honest and transparent than women will ever be… kinda sucks

[Somoneelse]

Making you jalous or just to notify you are not his only option.

[Asker]

I know I am not his only option? He’s too handsome for that.

[loveslongnails]

It's his way of confirming that you should stop dating him because he's an idiot. Please take his message seriously.

[Dongie]

Either he considers you a friend or trying to jealous you up. You decide which it could be baby.😙

[justabuddy]

One of two things...

He wants to make you jealous

Or

He thinks of you as a friend and can't wait to tell you about the date.

[OddBeMe]

There probably was no other date.

[Asker]

There was

[elaphe]

Maybe he thinks of you as a friend.

[Moparll77]

Make you jealous