Girls, what is it that guys MOST misunderstand about what you want in a relationship?

Question

Many guys fail to understand that women actually think differently than men. What we imagine they want is only a misperception based on the fact that we see things in a masculine way. . . and of course you don't. (And girls make the same mistake when they try to understand guys.)

So, what is it that you hear guys saying about "what women really want. . ." that is so absolutely wrong? If your answer is not one of the choices below, please leave a comment and explain.

4ngelic · Accepted Answer

the most wrong is the whole money thing. red pill dudes online are always calling women golddiggers but i genuinely dont know where that comes from. like i'm pretty sure the majority of girls in western countries (cos i mean some cultures out there are gold diggery) dont really care about the dude's money unless he's actually broke. and that's only for women who are past their early 20s. like if your a student you dont care if your boyfriend is broke cos all students are broke. now obviously if a guy is rich it's a good thing, but it's not some necessary thing to check off in a dude at all. on to that the average girl isn't expecting a guy to go broke to pay for dates or an a fancy car. I don't know why so many guys online think that, its dumb

for the other stuff

- girls care about guys's looks almost as much as dudes basically but that doesn't mean most girls are delusional and go for the cream of the cream like incels think. i feel like pretty girls are satisfied looks wise with anyone at least a bit cute at minimum (like if your 6.5-7 your all good, no need to be a 9), average ones with boys who aren't necessarily very attractive but who aren't unattractive either, and ugly ones seem to not mind guys of the same level. girl's standards for bodies and height are also not that extreme. most girls want the guy to be taller that's it. you dont need to be 6'0 or something. also most girls just dont want you to look anorexic or fat, if your about a normal bmi you should be good. muscles are really hot but you dont need to look like a bodybuilder for them to work for you. you also dont need a pornstar dick. as long as it's not too small it should be all good for most girls

- a lot of girls like bad boys, but a lot dont and usually a 'bad boy' doesn't mean the same thing to girls as it does to boys. to guys a bad boy means some criminal asshole that beats you up and cheats on you. though usually a bad boy to girls just means a guy who looks a bit cold and intimidating on the outside, who acts a bit tough and rebellious, is exciting and unpredicable, often with a certain type of style/look that enhances the whole intimidation or rebel thing. girls who like that usually expect and want them to be loyal, treat them super well, never hurt them and genuinly love them. it usually at least to adults doesn't mean a drug dealer, a total asshole who's just nice to them, a murderer or whatever. only some delulu teen girls fantasize about that. thought the fantasy always involves them being treated like a princess, being loved to death, etc. like often it goes like this: this super cold and rude rich hot popular boy who sells drugs after school and is a delinquent, is mean to a lot of people but not me. he treats me like a goddess, takes me with him to do delinquant shit (omg weere like partners in crime hehe), and he'd die for me in a heartbeat. once in a drug deal gone wrong he shielded my body without thinking and took two bullets. omg so so romantic. doesn't go like this: criminal bad boy daddy rapes me and beats me omg so hott. some dudes online try justifying being pro rape, domestic abuse, mistreatment etc or hating women by having a wrong idea of what bad boy means. and also the idea that all girls like bad boys. adding to this whole thing, the idea that women want to be treated badly and not with respect, manners etc is plain wrong. men who think that are the types of dudes who think that just being nice to a girl will make her spread her legs or date you. which is obviously dumb as shit since that's how you should act with anyone. also kindness is only part of the equation. it's not everything. like if your nice but not attractive enough/too young/too boring/too whatever it's never going to happen. dudes like that go on to imagine girls want guys to be mean with them since being nice doesn't work like they thought it would. most girls like and want to be treated well with respect and a little sprinkle of chivalry without going in m'lady discord mod territory obviously

-most girls are more interested in dating then hoeing around especially at the levels dudes who believe women are all cumdumspters who dont care about love, say. there's plenty of hoes especially for college aged girls, though they dont sleep around as much as the internet thinks and they still want love. even onlyfans girls, escorts, etc want love. it's rare to find a girl who unironically never wants a boyfriend ever and is repulsed by love. that's more common with guys

mandyfire98 · Accepted Answer

Every single one of these are all highly misunderstood. Most of these are used by guys to "women bad" and make the majority of women look negative so it will help explain why some guys aren't successful getting women.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men focus on ALL the wrong stuff and despite being told time and time again they are misguided, they are still so delusional. All this nonsense over height, money, penis size, you can read this on here every day and it is frankly embarrassing.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

All of the above!

MsBrie · Answer

I can't speak for most other girls but my man needed to be told he didn't need to spend a lot on me.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

Is there an All of the Above option? Because that.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think it's most or all of these.

TweedyDumps · Answer

Who doesn’t want to be treated well……by a partner, parent, teacher, child, other adults. I do not insist on having doors opened for me, but it sure does feel good when it happens. :-)

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